I'll try to keep this short and to the point; my friend and I both got engaged 2 weeks apart this past October and want a Fall 2012 wedding.
Her story: Lives in Florida, both families will be traveling in from out of town for wedding, most friends in town for wedding, wants October wedding for timing and proposal anniversary significance, September too soon for budget, November and December to hard for families.
My story: Lives in Michigan (moved from Florida), majority of friends will be traveling in from out of town for wedding, over half of family for both of us will be traveling in from out of town, wants October wedding for fall foliage and significance to proposal and other relationship anniversaries, September too soon for budget maybe the last week if we really, really tried, November creates potential weather risks but could make the second weekend work and it would be easier to pull off than end of September.
We both want to attend each other's weddings but agree there needs to be a buffer.
I would pick the November date today to avoid the stress this is causing but she's stressed out about there not being enough time between our weddings but can't really pick a date right now because she's in the thick of exams and won't find out what her family will be contributing until Thanksgiving.
We are both beyond stressed. I am very worried one or both of us will end up resenting each other over all of this and this is supposed to be the happiest time.
What do we do?