Welcome Email/Letter to Wedding Party Participants

faithopelove31

Hi Everyone,

I'm a newbie , and was wondering if anyone has created an email, or message/letter to send to wedding party participants prior to the wedding.  Basically thanking them for being apart of a joyous occasion (wedding is 4/23/11) and letting them know updates will be coming soon (mainly for bridesmaids, i need to send them their info).

Thanks for any help,
faithopelove31

heyimbren

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[QUOTE]Hi Everyone, I'm a newbie :), and was wondering if anyone has created an email, or message/letter to send to wedding party participants prior to the wedding.  Basically thanking them for being apart of a joyous occasion (wedding is 4/23/11) and letting them know updates will be coming soon (mainly for bridesmaids, i need to send them their info). Thanks for any help, faithopelove31
Posted by faithopelove31[/QUOTE]

I don't think it's a terrible idea, but a friend of mine tried to do this with facebook messages, and people got pretty annoyed with them. Especially the guys, but some of the girls did too (probably because we had soo many messages from her about everything).

People will ask you for updates on your wedding, so I don't think you need to worry about that. I think it could be nice to maybe send a little thank you to people for being a part of your special day, but leave it at that would be my suggestion.

heartxsongs

I sent a Facebook message to my bridesmaids to introduce them to each other.  I don't expect them to try and become great friends or anything, but just to let them know who else was in the bridal party.  I used that same message to tell them the venues when we finalized them. 

Once it comes to talking about getting dresses (which won't be for a while, but still), I'd send them separate messages so that I can get their individual tastes, budget concerns, etc. without them having to worry about CCing other wedding party members.

MyNameIsNot

I sent an email to my side shortly after we asked everyone.  Basically, it was hey, here's the WP, the date is this and the rehearsal will be the day before.  Who wants to go dress shopping?

My DH was in charge of communicating with his people, but there were only 2 of them, so it wasn't complicated.

mica178

Most of my bridal party already knew at least someone else on the bridal party, and we had all been in email communication with each other about bridesmaids dresses, accessories and hair stuff.  So I think a lot of them would contact each other than than bug me with questions.  Also, before the OOT people started showing up, one of my BMs had arranged for a girls' night out the night before the RD.  There were formal invitations for the RD.  So people knew where to go and when, and I spoke with people specifically about any other plans.  We did fine without anything more.

Now, for the boys' side, that's a different story.  Apparently my DH didn't tell all of the groomsmen where to be on the wedding day, so they were late to the limo pick-up point, had less time to pre-party at the church, and caused the limo driver to be late picking up us girls so that I only had 10 minutes to get into my dress when I got to the church.  Also DH admits that the disorganized members of his party were calling him all morning long asking for directions and addresses.  (Bear in mind, all of this stuff was sent to them via normal mail and email, so it was just them being dumbasses, not DH's usual disorganization.)

osumegs

I'm glad you posted this. I was thinking along the same lines. Most of my bridal party only knows of the other girls from hearing me mention their names. 

Good idea.

faithopelove31

Thanks so much for the welcome!!!!  I think I'm going to just send out a little email to everyone.  They have some cute cards that I could purchase for bridesmaids, but I wanted to send on inclusive message for everyone! Thanks again so much for the welcome.

JCM10

A friend of mine created a 'newsletter' type thing...she used Word and added short fun stories/pictures of her with all the girls, since half were friends from college and half were from high school. It helped them get to know a bit about each other before they met. It also included contact information (email and phone) for each girl. It was fairly early in the process (as far as I know there was only one...my roomate was in the wedding party, not me), so it had a lot to do with info on when/where of the wedding and lodging situation (high school friends were from out of town), and bridesmaid dresses. I think it's a great idea!