Hi all, I really don't know how to discuss this without sounding insensitive, but here it goes...
My fiance and I are not inviting children to our wedding as the ceremony will be recorded as well as streamed live on the Internet and we don't wish to have the noise of obnoxious children (as is usually the case with the weddings I've been to that involve children). One person who is a friend of my fiance's family has a daughter who is severely autistic. The girl is 26 years old and has the cognitive abilities of a 4-year-old. In church, she is known for just randomly starting to shout unintelligibly in the middle of the sermon and just wondering around, shouting, and doing overall weird things...and the mother rarely does anything to stop her (though occasionally takes her out of the room for a few minutes, just for it to happen all over again).
Anyway, the mother has made it clear that she wants to bring her to the wedding and I have no idea how to ask her to not bring her. I know that neither the mother or child can help their situation, but I'm afraid that the girl is just going to be unruly and distracting through the whole thing. The mother is very sensitive on the topic of talking about her daughter (VERY understandably so!). I think the mother wlil be hurt, but I doubt I can avoid that. How should we approach this?