married ladies, how busy were you right before your wedding?

peanutty2

how busy were you the days before your wedding?

anytime i merely mention doing anything close to the wedding my mom starts on and on about how busy i'll be and won't have time to do a single thing.  Now the wedding is on a sunday and i know the day before will be super busy getting everything up to the area and the location and having the RD and last second items to pack.... but in the days before? week before?  I am taking off weds-fri and cleared the 2 weekends before the wedding.  yes, i do want to be packed for our hm since we leave right after the wedding... but otherwise, what will i be so busy doing i won't have time to breathe? is she right or exagerating?  whenever i ask her she just gives me an exasperated "ugh you'll just be busy"... but if i'm missing something i'm not thinking of i want to know! 

doctabroccoli

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[QUOTE]how busy were you the days before your wedding? anytime i merely mention doing anything close to the wedding my mom starts on and on about how busy i'll be and won't have time to do a single thing.  Now the wedding is on a sunday and i know the day before will be super busy getting everything up to the area and the location and having the RD and last second items to pack.... but in the days before? week before?  I am taking off weds-fri and cleared the 2 weekends before the wedding.  yes, i do want to be packed for our hm since we leave right after the wedding... but otherwise, what will i be so busy doing i won't have time to breathe? is she right or exagerating?  whenever i ask her she just gives me an exasperated "ugh you'll just be busy"... but if i'm missing something i'm not thinking of i want to know! 
Posted by peanutty2[/QUOTE]

Lol, my wedding is next weekend (the 30th).  My mom has been flipping out and driving me BSC for over a month now about "everything there is to do".  I'm just shrugging my shoulders and twiddling my thumbs cause there isn't much to do.

baystateapple

I took just the day before the wedding off.  H and I drove up to MA (where we were married) the day before the rehearsal.  We were busy that week with the preparations.  I wouldn't have wanted to schedule anything that wasn't really wedding-related.  I had a manicure and a teeth-cleaning done that week, but those were the only appointments I made during those few days.

emilyinchile

I didn't exactly have the typical experience because there was an 8.8 earthquake the week before my wedding. I was extremely busy, but 99% of that activity had to do with the aftermath of the earthquake, so clearly there was nothing absolutely essential that I had to do during that last week since the wedding still happened.

I think it's a good idea to leave yourself time for last minute details, but I don't think you will necessarily need that time (although you'll probably fill it with some wedding task if you have it).

FutureMrsFezz

I wasn't busy at all.  But I had everything done.  I was at the beach Wednesday-Friday leading up to my Saturday wedding.  If you are doing any DIY stuff last minute I guess you could be busy.  But I relaxed and hung out with my girl friends a few days leading up to the wedding who were in from out of town.

cengle

The last 2 days prior to the wedding I was extremely busy. Other than that, yeah, I was busy, but it wasn't anything I couldn't handle.
And I had finals up until the week right before the wedding. My H had a final the Wednesday before the wedding (Sat. wedding). We didn't die.

peanutty2

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[QUOTE]In Response to married ladies, how busy were you right before your wedding? : Lol, my wedding is next weekend (the 30th).  My mom has been flipping out and driving me BSC for over a month now about "everything there is to do".  I'm just shrugging my shoulders and twiddling my thumbs cause there isn't much to do.
Posted by doctabroccoli[/QUOTE]

LOL this sounds like what i'm expecting.  she's already driving me BSC.  btw i think that might be the first knottie acronym i didn't need to look up.  yup i know that one!

emily - i can't imagine!  that definately sounds stressful!

yea, i've got a couple DIY things i might do and a couple beauty related appts but i can't think of what else is going to be so time consuming lol good to hear from others who did it though :)

Beachy730

It all depends on how organized you are, and how much DIY stuff you have to do.  I was really organized the whole time and had anything needed to be done on my part at least a week before the wedding.  The last thing to do was the escort cards, and we finished those the weekend before.  Our florist did the centerpieces, the chair cover people put those on, and our venue did the favors.  We did the RD 2 nights before the wedding and I'm so glad we did.  The day before the wedding we dropped our favors and a few last minute things off at the venue, then went to dinner with H's friend that was in town.  

cengle

Oh, and part of my insane busy-ness was that I decided that I needed to make sugar cookies from scratch for my RD the night before. I don't know why I thought this was a good idea. We had a huge RD. I made a whole lot of cookies.

Wiscisbliss

I was busy on Thursday and Friday before the wedding for 2 reasons:
1) I had a million relatives in from out of town that needed entertaining
2) I DIY'ed my flowers.

Without those two things, I would have had very little to do.  Paint my toes, go to the rehearsal...  and ???

I am generally a very organized person, so I had been packed for the HM for at least a week, programs done and folded 2 or 3 weeks early, etc. 

emilyinchile

Hey Wisc, did you managed to find that example of a newb asking for votes for something on E and E regs telling her not to that I asked for the other day?

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The week before the wedding I taught Vacation Bible School at our church. Then we went home (back to Ohio) on a Friday and my husband's sister graduated from college on Saturday. And then we were married the following Saturday.

Once we got home, we pretty much just had to stuff the favors, which took a good deal of time. But MIL helped me with that, thank God. And then we had to decorate the reception venue about a 2 days before the wedding. I also dropped some things off for the florist such as the rosary for my bouquet and the vases I had bought for the BM's to put their bouquets in at the reception. We also had to do the table/seating arrangments and write out all of the place cards. My MIL helped with that as well.

And H and I both had our bachelor and bachelorette parties that week. It was busy, but fun. I was just ready to be married and told myself that besides what I knew I had to do, I wasn't doing anything else that I thought despite how much I wanted to. And it worked.

Wiscisbliss

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[QUOTE]Hey Wisc, did you managed to find that example of a newb asking for votes for something on E and E regs telling her not to that I asked for the other day?
Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

I didn't bother looking.  I've seen it enough (maybe not on E) to know that I don't need to find examples.  I simply wanted to know what was different about that case.  I was told...  and essentially told to MYOB when regs are posting to each other.  I think that is kind of funny on a public forum.  I really don't care to discuss anymore. 

missy68

I took a couple hours off work Wednesday to run errands; got packed and took the dog to the PetsHotel. We left EARLY Thursday morning to fly into LasVegas, and spent the day sightseeing. We had a birthday dinner for my husband that night, got our marriage license, were surprised by his sister getting married Friday afternoon, saw Phantom of the Opera as a double date with my brother and SIL, then the wedding was Saturday afternoon. Oh - and we had the champagne brunch that day with my aunt and uncle, so he could meet them. Lots of fun stuff, one "huh?" but no psychotic running around (except for me packing - and that's typical and expected).

Moneypenny424

I don't remember being busy.  I took off Wed-Fri from work and did some last minute things:  picking up my dress, finalizing a few things with the venue.  Friday I had my nails done and my ring cleaned.  The only other thing I remember doing at that time was hanging out with my parents and eating Jamaican food .

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: married ladies, how busy were you right before your wedding? : I didn't bother looking.  I've seen it enough (maybe not on E) to know that I don't need to find examples.  I simply wanted to know what was different about that case.  I was told...  and essentially told to MYOB when regs are posting to each other.  I think that is kind of funny on a public forum.  I really don't care to discuss anymore. 
Posted by Wiscisbliss[/QUOTE]

<div>Each board has its own community of regs, and E is definitely known for that.  You were told to MYOB because you clearly didn't understand what was going on, however you felt the need to say something about it.  There is a difference between first time posters spamming the boards for votes to help pay for their wedding, and well known regs asking her friends for help for something completely NWR.  </div>

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: married ladies, how busy were you right before your wedding? : I didn't bother looking.  I've seen it enough <strong>(maybe not on E)</strong> to know that I don't need to find examples.  I simply wanted to know what was different about that case.  I was told...  and essentially told to MYOB when regs are posting to each other.  I think that is kind of funny on a public forum.  I really don't care to discuss anymore. 
Posted by Wiscisbliss[/QUOTE]

That bolded part is key.

You weren't told to MYOB on a public forum. The comments that you took that way were about the fact that your post had nothing to do with what actually happens on this board.

KentuckyKate

I was extremely busy with programs and escort cards in the last two days before.  It really sucked.

peanutty2

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[QUOTE]Oh, and part of my insane busy-ness was that I decided that I needed to make sugar cookies from scratch for my RD the night before. I don't know why I thought this was a good idea. We had a huge RD. I made a whole lot of cookies.
Posted by cengle[/QUOTE]

lol i could see myself doing this, especially if i end up with not much to do those days before.  i'll try to remember this and avoid such thoughts :P 

Pirata13

Honestly, I wasn't that busy. I was only a little behind with a couple last minute craft things because I got really sick the week before and crashed as soon as I got home from work. But I ran a couple small errands each day and spent the rest of the time playing Wii and reading.  The Tuesday before, a couple girls came over to help me make Academy Award "envelopes" out of napkins, but that was my only "project". And we decorated the hall that Thursday with a lot of help. But I was really relaxed.

Karen's MOH

I was moderately busy. I did absolutely everything that I could ahead of time and didn't really have a lot of DIY stuff that week or anything. I also promised myself that after my Thurs morning meeting with the venue (for Sat wedding) I was done and it was celebration time not last minute stress time, and I stuck to that. I scheduled a massage for me and MOH that Thur afternoon, bridesmaids/MOB/MOG lunch, mani pedis, and RD the day before. It was pretty great.

That said, I would allow extra time for things you just don't think about-- no matter how much you plan, probably something will come so leave time for it.

Oh another thing that helped was I packed things for different places or occasions in different boxes. That was I was going through stuff and looking around for things, I just put the packed boxes into the car (labelled "Venue stuff" or "Rehearsal Dinner" or "Wedding Party Gifts".

sarabellam

Hmm, I worked up through Thursday for a Saturday morning wedding. I took Friday off because I had to make the wedding cake. Oh, and I made a birthday cake for my niece, whose birthday was the same day as the rehearsal dinner, and made a couple of pitchers of margaritas for the rehearsal dinner because my SIL asked for them.

MyNameIsNot

I was crazy busy at work that last week.  We were gone for 2 weeks after the wedding, and preparing to be gone that long was a huge ordeal.  I remember that I kept having problems jump up and that I was at work the whole weekend before and until after 8 every night that last week.  

Other than that, there wasn't much.  I took Friday off work, and it was pretty chill.  OOT people started showing up in the afternoon, so H and I were running around getting people from the airport and that, but NBD.  I had time to have a drink w/SIL on the way back from the nail salon.  

Calypso1977

i honestly would have worked till probbably noon that friday, but my sister who i rarely see came to town that wednesday so i took off wed, thur fri.

other than dropping off a few items at the reception location that friday, and picking up my dress from the seamstress (it was all altered and ready, she just stored it as she had more room) i had nothing to do other than get my nails done and spend time with my mom and sister.

if you are organized and have your crap together, you wont be doing tons of last minute stuff.

mikeynkrib2011

mmmk, let's have a look at just the day before:

8:30-11:00am - Massage (includes driving to/from)
11:00am-2:30 - Mani/pedi (includes driving/lunch/return home)
2:30-4:00 - Eyebrow appointment (my original lady cancelled and I had to drive all over town to find someone else who was available!)
4:00-4:30 - Driving in rush hour traffic from across home
4:30-6:00 - Prepare for Rehearsal Dinner (we hosted at our house)
6:30-7:00 - Ceremony Rehearsal
7:00-9:30 - Drive home, RD, cleanup
9:30-10:00 - Organizing next days items/events
10:00-11:00 - Fought over the 1 bathroom with my three guests
11:00-2:30am - Chatted with my MOH about life, love, wedding, and everything in between cuz neither of us could sleep!


So was it busy?  Yes.

I chose for it to be, but things will come up unexpectedly.  Plan for more time than not enough.