I volunteered to throw my cousin's bridal shower, but she recently decided to move the wedding up because her dad was diagnosed with cancer. They are thinking of JOPing it in a month. My question is do I still throw her a shower? There is no way it could happen between now and then. I start school in a week and can't fly home. If not, how do I handle family who thinks that because I volunteered to do it in the first place I am still obligated to do so?