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Re: Thx but no thanks!

  • sb716sb716
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    I say if there's a chance of these girls providing you any source of stress on your wedding day-- DON'T invite them!  

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  • SheDiva4SheDiva4
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    Well that depends on if you want to reconcile with them.  If so and you can afford to add them then do so. 

    If they are not interested then they will decline the invite and you will know where the friendship stands. 
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  • NuggetBrainNuggetBrain member
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    I think you should stop worrying about your enemies and figure out how not to double post.  Just saying.
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  • CellesCelles member
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    You should only invite your enemies if you're planning to wear brightly colored spandex under your wedding dress.  Personally, I don't recommend it. 

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  • BrookePRBride11BrookePRBride11 member
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    SB716 I know if they came they wouldnt start any trouble , especially bc my wedding is destination and it would cost them money and time to come so I dont think they would show up if they had bad intentions...its moreso the chance that they DONT show up and then I feel stupid for having been the bigger person and inviting them in the first place...my sorority sisters will be sitting together so I would definitely notice if they didn't come.  But at least I could tell by their response card where we stand...like if they take the time to decline and mail it to me there may be some hope but if they don't send anything back at all at least I'll know 30 days pre wedding where we stand and therefor not worry about it on my wedding day.  

    She..the problem is I am not sure if I want to reconcile, but bc the decision is irreversible I would hate for 10 years from now if we do reconcile and it always stands that I didn't invite them to my wedding.  

    Im a Leo and I don't want to feel like once again I got played by them.  


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  • BrookePRBride11BrookePRBride11 member
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    Excuse me Nugget but this is actually my first time posting...sorry my double post bothered u enough to comment on it.  I was unawares of the Mistake Free society I lived in :O)

    Peace n Blessings...sounds like u cld use some!

    Thank to everyone else for your feedback...
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  • AmoroAgainAmoroAgain member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitations-enemies-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a179efef-27c5-432b-983c-be84f0521da2Post:27146add-30aa-456c-8ea7-3c0540ab06fc">Re: INVITATIONS TO ENEMIES</a>:
    [QUOTE]Excuse me Nugget but this is actually my first time posting...sorry my double post bothered u enough to comment on it.  I was unawares of the Mistake Free society I lived in :O) Peace n Blessings...sounds like u cld use some! Thank to everyone else for your feedback...
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  • andy71781andy71781 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitations-enemies-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:a179efef-27c5-432b-983c-be84f0521da2Post:cad53628-89aa-4c5d-bf54-c4f2f9f920f2">Re: INVITATIONS TO ENEMIES</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: INVITATIONS TO ENEMIES : Snds lak u cld use sum splling lssns
    Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

    you are funny.
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  • NuggetBrainNuggetBrain member
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: INVITATIONS TO ENEMIES : Snds lak u cld use sum splling lssns
    Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

    ZOMG Amoro, go away, you're totally messing up my peace and blessings time.  I really cld use some.
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  • key721key721
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    I would not invite my enemies, or ex-friends. If you want to try and make peace, I think it would be easier to do it outside the wedding. Maybe you can talk to them before you send invites? Just a thought...
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  • beatlesgirl25beatlesgirl25
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitations-enemies-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a179efef-27c5-432b-983c-be84f0521da2Post:5cea6bdb-1d0a-4a8b-8d9e-0b7a47d0e69c">Re: INVITATIONS TO ENEMIES</a>:
    [QUOTE]SB716 I know if they came they wouldnt start any trouble , especially bc my wedding is destination and it would cost them money and time to come so I dont think they would show up if they had bad intentions...its moreso the chance that they DONT show up and then I feel stupid for having been the bigger person and inviting them in the first place...my sorority sisters will be sitting together so I would definitely notice if they didn't come.  But at least I could tell by their response card where we stand...like if they take the time to decline and mail it to me there may be some hope but if they don't send anything back at all at least I'll know 30 days pre wedding where we stand and therefor not worry about it on my wedding day.   She..the problem is I am not sure if I want to reconcile, but bc the decision is irreversible I would hate for 10 years from now if we do reconcile and it always stands that I didn't invite them to my wedding.   <strong>Im a Leo and I don't want to feel like once again I got played by them.  </strong>
    Posted by BrookePRBride11[/QUOTE]

    I don't understand the relevance of this. I thought in general people don't like to be played by others, regardless of when they were born.



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  • NuggetBrainNuggetBrain member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitations-enemies-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:a179efef-27c5-432b-983c-be84f0521da2Post:08c6d273-ff0c-4bf6-a511-57fa2678c3a3">Re: INVITATIONS TO ENEMIES</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: INVITATIONS TO ENEMIES : I don't understand the relevance of this. I thought in general people don't like to be played by others, regardless of when they were born.
    Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

    Well I'm a Gemini, and therefore resent your remark and also like bagels.
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  • andy71781andy71781 member
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    I'm a cancer - I'm crying in my office and trying not to cut.
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  • LesPaulLesPaul member
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    I would only invite my mortal enemies.  Not just run-of-the-mill ex-sorority sister ordinary enemies.

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  • vallyhoovallyhoo
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitations-enemies-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a179efef-27c5-432b-983c-be84f0521da2Post:b9ffa867-c1f1-470a-977b-eb8cf5416f35">Re: INVITATIONS TO ENEMIES</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: INVITATIONS TO ENEMIES : Well I'm a Gemini, and therefore resent your remark and also like bagels.
    Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

    ha!
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  • beatlesgirl25beatlesgirl25
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitations-enemies-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a179efef-27c5-432b-983c-be84f0521da2Post:b9ffa867-c1f1-470a-977b-eb8cf5416f35">Re: INVITATIONS TO ENEMIES</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: INVITATIONS TO ENEMIES : Well I'm a Gemini, and therefore resent your remark and also like bagels.
    Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

    Figures. But everyone knows Geminis are the laziest Zodiac sign. Because one of you gets to eat bagels while the other one does all the seething resentment stuff.



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    Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?

    "cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
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  • BrookePRBride11BrookePRBride11 member
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    Wow.  First and last post.  Bitter bitch central!  

    thanks! 
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  • goheels05goheels05
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    Think of it this way, these are the possible scenarios of you inviting them:

    1.  They RSVP no.  This could be because they don't want to come or because they can't.  You have no way of knowing.  You're still at square one.

    2.  They don't RSVP.  Annoying.

    3.  They RSVP yes, come, have a good time.  The end.

    4.  They RSVP yes, don't come, and you spent money on them for nothing.

    If you want to reconcile with them, do it completely unrelated to your wedding.  Call, send an email, whatever.  Don't even mention the wedding, because it's not relevant. 

    If you guys reconcile but they aren't invited to your wedding, it's really not that big of a deal.  I have just recently reconciled with an old friend who stopped hanging out with me because she had a crush on Mr. Heels before we dated.  Even though we are getting along now, at no point did it ever cross my mind, "Gee, I wish I had invited Ashley to the wedding." 
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  • NuggetBrainNuggetBrain member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitations-enemies-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:a179efef-27c5-432b-983c-be84f0521da2Post:84dcdade-426b-4fde-97e4-37117eec45cc">Re: INVITATIONS TO ENEMIES</a>:
    [QUOTE]Wow.  First and last post.  Bitter bitch central!   thanks! 
    Posted by BrookePRBride11[/QUOTE]

    I would like to formally request the Knot gods to consider changing the title of this board to "Bitter Bitch Central". 
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  • Moneypenny424Moneypenny424 member
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    If you want to reconcile with them, consider it.  Just remember that a wedding isn't really time for you to mend fences.  I didn't even have time to spend quality time with people I love, let alone people that I was trying to repair a friendship with.  Also, do you really mean ENEMY?  That's a strong word.  I wouldn't invite any true enemy to my wedding.
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  • LesPaulLesPaul member
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    TK BBC.  Excellent idea, Nugget!
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  • kellyatfsukellyatfsu
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    Does dropping vowels really make your life easier and faster? How fuucking long does it take to add the "ou" in could? Makes no sense to me.
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  • beatlesgirl25beatlesgirl25
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitations-enemies-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a179efef-27c5-432b-983c-be84f0521da2Post:1e40d109-591b-4cf8-8ef0-7d39eecae43c">Thx but no thanks!</a>:
    [QUOTE] Got my answer. peace
    Posted by BrookePRBride11[/QUOTE]

    I thought you weren't coming back? This is the longest GBCK ever.



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    "cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
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  • nicoleflores2005nicoleflores2005
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitations-enemies-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:a179efef-27c5-432b-983c-be84f0521da2Post:84dcdade-426b-4fde-97e4-37117eec45cc">Re: INVITATIONS TO ENEMIES</a>:
    [QUOTE]Wow.  First and last post.  Bitter bitch central!   thanks! 
    Posted by BrookePRBride11[/QUOTE]

    You sound like such a sorority girl.

    Why would you even consider inviting "enemies" to your wedding?  A wedding is a happy day meant to be shared with your closest friends and family.  Here you are analyzing what it will mean if they reply No and how that will make you feel.  You're wasting your time and adding unneccessary stress to your life. 
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  • sb716sb716
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    Wow so many bitchy girls on here.  Why are you responding if your just going to be a bitch? I feel so sorry for the men who got suckered into marrying you.
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  • GrammarPolice2010GrammarPolice2010
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    [QUOTE]Excuse me<font color="#ff0000">,</font> Nugget<font color="#ff0000">,</font> but this is actually my first time posting<font color="#ff0000">.</font> <font color="#ff0000">I am s</font>orry <font color="#ff0000">that </font>my double post bothered <font color="#ff0000">yo</font>u enough <font color="#ff0000">that you felt the need</font> to comment on it. I was unaware<font color="#ff0000">/<font color="#000000">s</font></font> <font color="#ff0000">that this was a</font> <font color="#ff0000">"m</font>istake <font color="#ff0000">f</font>ree<font color="#ff0000">"</font> society I live<font color="#ff0000">/</font>d in :O) Peace <font color="#ff0000">a</font>n<font color="#ff0000">d</font> <font color="#ff0000">b</font>lessings<font color="#ff0000">. It s</font>ounds like <font color="#ff0000">yo</font>u c<font color="#ff0000">ou</font>ld use some <font color="#ff0000">of those</font>! Thank <font color="#ff0000">you </font>to everyone else for your feedback<font color="#ff0000">.</font>
    Posted by BrookePRBride11[/QUOTE]
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  • nda_roxybabenda_roxybabe member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitations-enemies-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a179efef-27c5-432b-983c-be84f0521da2Post:9df99173-360d-483c-b8b3-fd2b50795a03">Re: Thx but no thanks!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Wow so many bitchy girls on here.  Why are you responding if your just going to be a bitch? I feel so sorry for the men who got suckered into marrying you.
    Posted by sb716[/QUOTE]
    Are you serious?

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