This is my second wedding (my fiance's first) and we are planning and paying for everything ourselves, for the most part. We originally wanted a small, family-only wedding. But, our families are huge and close and a small, family-only wedding would still be like 60 people. We were hoping to have no more than 50. But as we got to planning we settled on about 65. To do this, we cut all friends, even close ones (except my BFF and her hubby). I feel really bad about not inviting certain people and close friends who I think "should" be there. But, everyone knows we're engaged and are probably expecting invitations at some point and I'm sure will ask me about how the planning is going any day now. So my question is, how do I let close friends know they aren't invited and still keep my relationships intact? I'm sure they'd understand if I say its family only, but I still don't know how to let them know gracefully. Also, I feel really weird about having a second wedding anyway in the first place, with some of the same people there as were at my first one. I feel bad taking another gift from them and don't want people to think I expect it. Ugh, why did I waste my big day on such a jerk the first time? Wouldn't have any of these problems now. Oh well, c'est la vie.