STD/Invite Question

Megaboo1116

There's a few people I know will not be able to come to our wedding since it's the weekend before the 4th of July and they'll be leaving for vacation that day. And one couple is actually in their family member's wedding in another state. Both sets of people are very important to me (aunt/cousins- going on the trip, very good friends- in the other wedding). Do I still send them an STD and invitation knowing that they won't be able to come? I don't want them to feel bad that they have to respond no and they know I know they can't come but I also feel like it boils down to the old adage "it never hurts to ask".Also, the very good friends have been involved with helping come up with ideas and have been completelty interested in all of my DIY projects. She knows the time I've put into the STD's and invites. I don't know what to do... 

amys325

Things might change and they might be able to come.  I would still send them one.

achiduck

Yes. Stuff happens and by July of next year their plans may have changed. If they don't, it's still nice for them to know they were thought of.

entropicbeauty

I helped a friend with her wedding invites a couple years back and even though I knew I would be out of the country for an internship for the actual wedding it would have been nice to receive an invite...if even just to acknowledge the help I had provided them.

PetalPockets2012

I agree with PPs. I would send one to everyone you were planning to invite to begin with. I don't think they will feel bad they can't come if they receive an invite.

Grits8812

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[QUOTE]There's a few people I know will not be able to come to our wedding since it's the weekend before the 4th of July and they'll be leaving for vacation that day. And one couple is actually in their family member's wedding in another state. Both sets of people are very important to me (aunt/cousins- going on the trip, very good friends- in the other wedding). Do I still send them an STD and invitation knowing that they won't be able to come? I don't want them to feel bad that they have to respond no and they know I know they can't come but I also feel like it boils down to the old adage "it never hurts to ask".Also, the very good friends have been involved with helping come up with ideas and have been completelty interested in all of my DIY projects. She knows the time I've put into the STD's and invites. I don't know what to do... 
Posted by Megaboo1116[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Send them one just so they know they are invited if they can come, so they know you are thinking about them.  

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bbuckner984

I have several people on our list like this. Since we are having a DW many people are unable to attend due to finances. However they are still important enough to us that we did want to acknowledge that relationship with an invitation. And- like PP said, if their circumstances change it would be wonderful for them to know they are invited. 

So yeah- send them the invite anyway.