DIL is a planning pirate!!

sweettartt80

My FI and I have been engaged since April and are planning an April wedding.  Second marriage for both of us and he has two grown kids.  The oldest just got engaged and is planning a short engagement with an early October date.  DIL asked me to be maid of honor so I can help her with planning.  Sat down this week and looked at her plans and not only is she using the same venue (family church, no biggie), same flower girl and ring bearer, cake designer, and seamstress, but she unknowingly hijacked my wedding colors!  So, do I speak up or go with my plan B?  We are spending a lot more money on ours than she is and I would hate for our reception to outshine hers with them being so similar, but I kida had my heart set!  HELP!

heyimbren

Same FG and RB doesn't surprise me too much because it's the same family.

Cake Designer and seamstress - that won't make much of an impact unless she gets the exact same cake and dress.

Wedding colours - honestly, lots of people use the same colours.

I don't think it's a big deal, but if it is to you I would change your plans rather than ask her to change hers. Also, does she know how similar the plans are? If she doesn't, it might turn out that it bothers her as well.

I never find that money can make one wedding outshine another. Weddings are all different because the couples are all different and IMHO, it's the couple that makes the wedding not the colours or the cake.