I'm confused (KPS related)

jessjo04

Who has the offensive signature?

kkchisholm

I have no idea. But I do know the opened marriage during vacations still shocks me.

sarabellam

I'm thinking it may be someone who is trying to conceive and having a difficult time of it. The baby tickers are a semi-constant reminder of her difficulties. Or I may be completely off base.

FutureMrsTR

The "they brag about something someone else is unable to do" sounds like someone has a problem with baby photos or tickers because some people can't get pregnant?  Just my best guess.  That seems ridiculous to me, though.

FutureMrsTR

Jinx Sara

aMrsin09

I'm going to sit next to Sara on this one.

And yeah, the open marriage one is just mind boggling.

[Deleted User]

I just read the open marriage one. That woman's husband is a complete d-bag. She needs to leave him and move on to someone who doesn't use her past as an excuse to sleep around.

crfische

Or she needs to get some self-confidence and tell him to put an end to it. Ya know..be honest? Communicate with her husband? Sounds CRAZY, I know.

You can't be all like. YEAH, HUSBAND. It's cool! Sleep around on vacay!! And then be all like HEY IM LEAVING YOUR ASS BECAUSE YOU DID WHAT I TOLD YOU YOU COULD DO.

She's just as much the ass in this situation as he is.

sarabellam

FutureMrs, as someone who had my own difficulties conceiving, I understand the pain. And I agree that the husband in the "open marriage" secret is a complete asshat.

lizstill13

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[QUOTE]I just read the open marriage one. That woman's husband is a complete d-bag. <strong>She needs to leave him and move on to someone who doesn't use her past as an excuse to sleep around.</strong>
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

This. I thought our Hs were supposed to love us for who we are now, not hold things over our heads to get what they want. It seems a little too convenient an excuse to knock boots with anyone he wants.

scoetto

I think the offensive sig is mine. Because, essentially, it says "They're all gonna laugh at you!"

No?

jessjo04

I was thinking baby related too, maybe the word 'offensive' confused me. Upsetting? Maybe. Offensive? I wouldnt think so.

And the open marriage douchbag's wife is just asking for an STD or having a husband with an illegitimate child.

crfische

Yeah. SHE TOLD HIM HE COULD.

If you don't want your husband sleeping around, don't make it all right for him to do so.

Granted, he's an ass for following through on it, but she's an ass for telling him it's all right.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]Or she needs to get some self-confidence and tell him to put an end to it. Ya know..be honest? Communicate with her husband? Sounds CRAZY, I know. You can't be all like. YEAH, HUSBAND. It's cool! Sleep around on vacay!! And then be all like HEY IM LEAVING YOUR ASS BECAUSE YOU DID WHAT I TOLD YOU YOU COULD DO. She's just as much the ass in this situation as he is.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

Oh, I completely agree. She needs to grow a spine and either leave him or tell him his times of sleeping around are over. I can't believe anyone would put up with that. They're both asses.

FutureMrsTR

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[QUOTE]FutureMrs, as someone who had my own difficulties conceiving, I understand the pain. And I agree that the husband in the "open marriage" secret is a complete asshat.
Posted by sarabellam[/QUOTE]

Like JessJo said, I think it was the use of the word "offensive" that I find ridiculous.  Some things may be painful, but I don't think you should be offended that others aren't censoring themselves because of it (considering they most likely don't even know).

sarabellam

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[QUOTE]Yeah. SHE TOLD HIM HE COULD. If you don't want your husband sleeping around, don't make it all right for him to do so. Granted, he's an ass for following through on it, but she's an ass for telling him it's all right.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

Oh, yeah, this too. But to castigate someone for having more "experience?" Not cool in the least. Sounds like someone is incredibly insecure in his own abilities. 2 pump chump, anyone?

crfische

But I'm guessing if that's how he felt about it, he was castigating her for it before they were married.

Perhaps people are offended by margarita because they are allergic to tequila?

stellabbella129

I'm with fische. She gave him permission, she shouldn't just leave him because he did what she said he could do. It reminds me of those ridiculous girls I meet all the time who say they're cool with their boyfriends or husbands going to strip clubs (because they want to be the chill girlfriend/wife who doesn't restrict her man) but then they flip out and stop trusting their bf/h when he goes. If you're not okay with it, say you're not okay with it. If he says "well I'm still going to do this because you were a slut back in the day" then you can leave him for being an asshole, but I think one would need to give him a chance to do what's right for the marriage by telling him what is needed, first.

Night_Sprite

I think it could also maybe be a gay marriage thing.  All the wedding photos when some people can't get married.  Maybe?

alixzafiris

Allergic to tequila?! Dude that would suck. Like... really bad.

JoyTate1

I don't think open marriage girl should leave him for doing what she said, I think she should leave him for holding her past over her head. 

AmoroAgain

The woman with the open marriage on vacation?  That's total BS.  First off, her H sucks for caring about that.  I've got more history than my H and he doesn't care.  Second, she's clearly got some self- esteem issues  for even letting him get away with this.  WHY would you let him do that?  Third, yes, it's her fault because she said yes, BUT it's pretty clear that she's got a lot of issues, and he forced it on her in some way. 

How demoralized do you have to be to let your HUSBAND sleep with other people because of what you did BEFORE you got married?  It's a psychiatric field day going on in that house.

L-Bride

That's crazy. FI and I don't even think about what we were doing with other people before we were together. The only thing that matters is that he's the last person I will be sleeping with in my life and vice versa. I see so many couples making issues due to things that happened before they even knew each other. I don't think anyone has the right to do that. Talk about insecure...nothing is a bigger turn-off to me.

Her letting her husband have an open marriage on vacations just shows she has bigger issues than he does. We also would never be going on vacation.

FutureMrsTR

How does the open marriage thing on vacation even work?  What if she wants to go out for dinner some night, but he's "busy"?  Does she have to leave the hotel room for him?  What does she do?  How does she not go insane?

L-Bride

Ha, I was just thinking that! Doesn't sound like much of a vacation to me.

quotequeen

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[QUOTE]I think it could also maybe be a gay marriage thing.  All the wedding photos when some people can't get married.  Maybe?
Posted by Night_Sprite[/QUOTE]

People who are offended by the sight of wedding photos would probably be best served staying away from a wedding message board.

kkchisholm

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[QUOTE]How does the open marriage thing on vacation even work?  What if she wants to go out for dinner some night, but he's "busy"?  Does she have to leave the hotel room for him?  What does she do?  How does she not go insane?
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

And how does she not go crazy that he is sleeping with a complete stranger, who probably sleeps around. Hello std.

BecW2be

Why are so many of these secrets using Comic fucking Sans? That's what's confusing me most.

stellabbella129

Bahahaha I hate comic sans.

arthomas82

What is KPS?

saxy414

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[QUOTE]What is KPS?
Posted by arthomas82[/QUOTE]

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