NEED ADVICE QUICK

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]where you are mentally at 12 and anything over, is completly different! although... i feel like yall are proving me wrong with that!
Posted by jericamegan06[/QUOTE]

What. Are. You. Talking. About? What does the mentality of a 13 year old and 25 year old have to do with anything??

zippityb

So, your wedding party will be competing on a quiz show?

heyimbren

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[QUOTE]where you are mentally at 12 and anything over, is completly different! although... i feel like yall are proving me wrong with that!
Posted by jericamegan06[/QUOTE]

There's an obvious mental differences, but you're missing the point: it's just walking. Nothing else. Not even any talking.

doctabroccoli

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[QUOTE]where you are mentally at 12 and anything over, is completly different! although... i feel like yall are proving me wrong with that!
Posted by jericamegan06[/QUOTE]

For the love of god, please stop saying ya'll.  It's making my head hurt.

And we're just trying to tell you that your wedding party members are neither replaceable or demoteable, and you are not listening.

ohwhynot

Count me in on the "what would be the big f'ing deal about walking down an aisle with a person much younger" bandwagon.  Really, OP, why is this even an issue?  What is there to be uncomfortable about? 

Walking down the aisle together as members of the bridal party doesn't imply, in any way shape or form that the two people are a couple.  So . . . why is this even an issue to you?

jericamegan06

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[QUOTE]She's already demoted someone in the past (posted on E a couple weeks ago): <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaidzilla" rel="nofollow">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaidzilla</a>
Posted by doctabroccoli[/QUOTE]

i feel like before you accuse anyone of anything... you should get your sources right.

zippityb

She's from Houston. We say y'all.

Ash2985

One of my BMs is 45 (46?) and none of my GMs are over the age of 28.... so that's almost like a 20 year difference.  Does that mean they can't walk together?

cengle

*pokes head in*
There's too much yelling and too many exclamation points being thrown around in here

*walks back out of thread*

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NEED ADVICE QUICK : i feel like before you accuse anyone of anything... you should get your sources right.
Posted by jericamegan06[/QUOTE]
Hey genius, you're in that thread posting about how you kicked out your bridesmaid. Her source IS right.
<em>"my MOH was the same way. I actually had 2. My little sister and then my BFF. My bff did the same thing. when we went to do the dress fitting she never showed up! it was bothering me to the point that, that was all i was worried about. It is your wedding, and you dont want to lose a friendship over it, but it got so bad for me and my friend (she was only worried about her new beau) that i hated her! your bridesmaids dont HAVE to do anything, but true best friends want to. I had 9 bridesmaids as well.... every other one wanted to help out with everything! My BFF... my MOH upset me so much that my FI called her and told her how bad she hurt me and told her he wanted her to call me and step out of the wedding. We talked and fought, but now we are fine... and she is no longer in the wedding. She diidnt really want to be or have the time or money to be. Maybe your friend is the same way. Sometimes people have so much going on that they just dont have the time or patients to be in a wedding right now! she may have said yes to be polite bcuz she is one of ur best friends, but maybe right now she just cant do it!

Good luck with her and everything.... it is very hard when a friend hurts you like this! i know the feeling. but just remember their may be something going on with her to be making her act like this and you just havnt noticed!"</em>

doctabroccoli

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NEED ADVICE QUICK : i feel like before you accuse anyone of anything... you should get your sources right.
Posted by jericamegan06[/QUOTE]

Umm, these words came from your mouth.

<div class="Discussion_PostQuote">my MOH was the same way. I actually had 2. My little sister and then my BFF. My bff did the same thing. when we went to do the dress fitting she never showed up! it was bothering me to the point that, that was all i was worried about. It is your wedding, and you dont want to lose a friendship over it, but it got so bad for me and my friend (she was only worried about her new beau) that i hated her! your bridesmaids dont HAVE to do anything, but true best friends want to. I had 9 bridesmaids as well.... every other one wanted to help out with everything! My BFF... my MOH upset me so much that my FI called her and told her how bad she hurt me and told her he wanted her to call me and step out of the wedding. We talked and fought, but now we are fine... and she is no longer in the wedding. She diidnt really want to be or have the time or money to be. Maybe your friend is the same way. Sometimes people have so much going on that they just dont have the time or patients to be in a wedding right now! she may have said yes to be polite bcuz she is one of ur best friends, but maybe right now she just cant do it! Good luck with her and everything.... it is very hard when a friend hurts you like this! i know the feeling. but just remember their may be something going on with her to be making her act like this and you just havnt noticed!
Posted by jericamegan06</div>

Ash2985

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NEED ADVICE QUICK : i feel like before you accuse anyone of anything... you should get your sources right.
Posted by jericamegan06[/QUOTE]
But.... you're in that thread talking about demoting your MOH.  Not sure where you're going with that one.

Stackeye210

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NEED ADVICE QUICK : i feel like before you accuse anyone of anything... you should get your sources right.
Posted by jericamegan06[/QUOTE]

What does get your sources right even mean?  You talked about how your MOH made you mad and your FI called and MADE her call you and step down. 

How old are you?  I think that's the most relevant number to your post and why it sounds like a 19 year old wrote it. 

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]*pokes head in* There's too much yelling and too many exclamation points being thrown around in here *walks back out of thread*
Posted by cengle[/QUOTE]
*likes*

doctabroccoli

She's 22.  She said it in a different post.

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]She's 22.  She said it in a different post.
Posted by doctabroccoli[/QUOTE]
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Beachy730

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NEED ADVICE QUICK : i feel like before you accuse anyone of anything... you should get your sources right.
Posted by jericamegan06[/QUOTE]

Well I am now accusing you of being a troll.  How did you kick you MOH out and go dress shopping, if they weren't even asked yet?

jericamegan06

is their a problem with me being 22?

Bubbalub

Wow. 22? She sounds about 13.

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]is their a problem with me being 22?
Posted by jericamegan06[/QUOTE]

Not if you act like an adult.

ohwhynot

Wait, so is she a troll, or what?  How can she have had a dress fitting, had all this stuff for her bms to do, had a full bridal party that she's now reduced by one AND also just now be having an engagement party and getting her bridal party together?  These stories don't seem to jibe.

ETA:  Oops, dnbeach beat me to it.  Well, OP?

Ash2985

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[QUOTE]is their a problem with me being 22?
Posted by jericamegan06[/QUOTE]
Aside from the fact that you're 22 and can't write a coherent post on a message board?

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I told my WP how they were walking the day of the wedding, actually.

You know you don't have to pair them off, right? Frankly, when they don't know each other, I think it's a little creepy. You can have the GMs standing at the front, or have them walk in first. That's what we did. My brother (bridesman) escorted my dad's GF. Then we had our parents walk in. Then the GMs. Then the BMs. Then me. My husband was already standing at the front.

When they walked out, the BMs walked out after us, followed by the GMs.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]17 and  13 is a big difference... and yes they HAVE to walk together... back down the aisle..... 
Posted by jericamegan06[/QUOTE]

Why?

Beachy730

Hmmm, OP disappeared when we mentioned she might be a troll.  Thats not helping the suspicions. 

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NEED ADVICE QUICK : i didnt, i wouldnt do that! i called him and said exactly what happened, and said all the options and he was very happy i was honest with him. and yes my fiance knows..... we have talked about this for the past 2 weeks, and we would not ask people to be in the wedding that were not our closest friends. do yall not feel close enough to your friends that you wouldnt just be able to call them and let them know what is going on?
Posted by jericamegan06[/QUOTE]

Well sure, but this isn't exactly an emergency. Or a problem, even.

jericamegan06

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[QUOTE]Wait, so is she a troll, or what?  How can she have had a dress fitting, had all this stuff for her bms to do, had a full bridal party that she's now reduced by one AND also just now be having an engagement party and getting her bridal party together?  These stories don't seem to jibe. ETA:  Oops, dnbeach beat me to it.  Well, OP?
Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]

Really? This is how adults act? OK! No actulally just now having an engagement party because my dad has been in ICU for the past month, and  my grandpa was in the hospital before that for about 2 months. My fiance and I just graduated from college. So we have been a little busy! For my wedding party I have 7, not one, and I have not asked them to do anything other than the dress fitting. Wedding party has been together since about a month after we got engaged, and I dont understand why just because I am 17 yall think that you have to try to walk all over me! And calling me a troll is not very "adult" of you.

opalsky007

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NEED ADVICE QUICK : Really? This is how adults act? OK! No actulally just now having an engagement party because my dad has been in ICU for the past month, and  my grandpa was in the hospital before that for about 2 months. My fiance and I just graduated from college. So we have been a little busy! For my wedding party I have 7, not one, and I have not asked them to do anything other than the dress fitting. Wedding party has been together since about a month after we got engaged, and I dont understand <strong>why just because I am 17 yall think that you have to try to walk all over me! And calling me a troll is not very "adult" of you.</strong>
Posted by jericamegan06[/QUOTE]

<div>Huh? I thought you were 22? My head hurts.</div>

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NEED ADVICE QUICK : Really? This is how adults act? OK! No actulally just now having an engagement party because my dad has been in ICU for the past month, and  my grandpa was in the hospital before that for about 2 months. My fiance and I just graduated from college. So we have been a little busy! For my wedding party I have 7, not one, and I have not asked them to do anything other than the dress fitting. Wedding party has been together since about a month after we got engaged, and <strong>I dont understand why just because I am 17 yall think that you have to try to walk all over me! </strong>And calling me a troll is not very "adult" of you.
Posted by jericamegan06[/QUOTE]

Troll. You just said you're 17. If you were 22 and had just graduated from "college" you wouldn't have made that mistake. Try high school, sweetie.

ohwhynot

Uh huh.  Okey-dokey, then.