We're doing a just-the-two of us ceremony in April, it's not a secret, but there are no guests.
I sort of want to send out a card/announcement letting people know, I think it's a nice way to officially tell them and not have it spread via facebook/word of mouth. It would only go to close friends and family - about 40 people. On the other hand, I also feel like people may be like "uh, wait, is this an invite? Did it already happen? Why was I not invited? etc etc."
I was less conflicted when we were going to the Carribean, but now it's stateside and we could technically invite people, we just don't want to
So, what do you think?