So...I have my sister, my fiance's sister, and my cousin (who introduced us) as bridesmaids, but when I asked my best friend from out of state, she couldn't/wouldn't do it, so I asked two gay friends to be bridesmen instead. Now, let me say that they are not boyfriend and boyfriend or anything, and they're not even like "look at me I'm gay!" or anything like that.
Enter my mother. My mom and dad are both very conservative Christians, and my grandparents are your typical older Republican/Democrats. They are conservative on most issues, but occasionally will vote Democrat basically.
So my mom decided in her last e-mail to me to tell me that my cousin told my grandma all about my bridesmen when she was down there visiting a few weekends ago and that "it makes all of us conservatives a little uncomfortable, but really makes gram and pop uncomfortable."
This is notoriously what my mom does in my life. She expresses her opinion and then expects me to change to fit it. I'm not changing on this one, it's my decision. I sent an e-mail back very courteously saying that they are not going to be wearing dresses or anything and that neither of them has boyfriends at this point and that they are not outwardly openly gay. Basically I was just trying to make it clear that I am not changing my mind and it's not like they're going to be shoving it in her face all night that they are gay.
But now I just feel really let down that my mom would say stuff like this to me. First of all, she isn't contributing to the wedding, we're paying for it ourselves with the help of my fiance's parents. Second of all, my younger brother who is 20 had a kid with his ex gf two years ago and the ex gf and the kid live with them. I love my niece, but I feel like this gives my parents no room to judge me, but it keeps happening.
I'm sorry to be a downer, but I really needed some ears on this issue, and some encouragement, I'm feeling so frustrated about this. Thank you guys so much! Feel free to post what you think about the situation.
