Last Minute Additions

LesaBear

I need some other opinions on this one.

My wedding is in less than three weeks. I'm having a DW in Costa Rica close to where my parents have a vacation home. Way back when we were planning everything (over a year ago) my parents had tossed around the idea of inviting the people that care of their house when they're not in the country. My mom just spent a week with me and I foolishly asked if they ever did invite them. 

My dad has now decided that they MUST be invited. The numbers were due at the 30 day mark but we can make additions up until  7 days before hand. I could care less if they invite them, but there is no place to put them. I've had the seating chart that FI worked very hard on done for over a month now. My dad took a look at the seating chart and now wants to rework everything to include these people and change how we have his family seated.

We have assigned tables due to the fact that FIs parents are divorced. We only have 4 tables total. It was very difficult to work out and make sure everyone would be comfortable.  I really just don't want to mess with this so close to the day of. I also have to point out that they will only be able to communicate with my dad and myself as they only speak Spanish. 

Should I be doing more to accommodate this? I'm at a loss. TIA 

stacy&tige

Are these people paid employees who take care of your parents vacation house? If so, it can be awkward to invite to your wedding. It can give off the idea that they need to come and bring a gift if they want to keep their jobs. I would think they would be uncomfortable in a situation where they don't know anyone and don't speak the language. I would be uncomfortable at my boss' child's wedding, but that's me.

LesaBear

They are and that's part of what makes me uncomfortable about it. They're going to feel obligated to come and my parents don't even want them to bring their kids. I feel like it will be awkward.

I was trying to be reasonable about it and asked my mom what prompted this so late in the game and she actually said that my dad thought that if they felt included they might work harder for them.

LesaBear

I didn't even think about the gift thing either. There are so many things at play here. I'm sure there are cultural differences with what to expect at a wedding anyway.

stacy&tige

If your dad's only reason for wanting to invite is cause "they'll work harder" I would say no. That is wrong on so many levels.

BeeBee22

It's REALLY not appropriate to invite paid employees.  Hopefully you, your Fi and your mother can convince your father of that.  BTW, unless your father is paying for the wedding, the answer is simply, "It's inappropriate, we've finalized the details and we can't do it."  I he's paying, you may have to get your mother on board to talk him out of it.  

His hoping it will make them "work harder" is really awful.  I would think that would be enough to kibosh it.  "Dad, that's disgusting.  It's completely against the rules of etiquette and I won't discuss it further."