Address Question

janedoe1113a

I'm addressing my invitations and I have a quick question for you.

I want to put both the man and woman's name on the address.  Which is the correct way?

Mr. and Mrs. Jane and John Doe

Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe

ThePinkSuperhero

Neither of those are correct.  If you're going to include both names, I would just skip the titles.

Night_Sprite

If they're married, he is first.

Koopa17

When I had my invitations done, the store I bought them from told me that the woman's name comes first, because the man's first name is not supposed to be separated from his last name.  I doubt it really matters, but that's how I did it.

sucrets4

We did Mrs. Jane and Mr. John Doe.

DH thought it looked silly saying "Mrs. John" which is technically how it's written.  And yes, you're not supposed to split up the man's name.

MyNameIsNot

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[QUOTE]When I had my invitations done, the store I bought them from told me that the woman's name comes first, because the man's first name is not supposed to be separated from his last name.  Posted by Koopa17[/QUOTE]

I heard the same thing, but I decided that was kind of silly, so I did it the opposite.  To me, it seemed more logical that Mr. and Mrs. should be followed by Dude and Lady in the same order.

I don't think people notice, though.

Koopa17

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Address Question : I heard the same thing, but I decided that was kind of silly, so I did it the opposite.  To me, it seemed more logical that Mr. and Mrs. should be followed by Dude and Lady in the same order. I don't think people notice, though.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

I agree, etiquette or not, it makes a bit more sense with the woman's name first. 

janedoe1113a

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Address Question : I heard the same thing, but I decided that was kind of silly, so I did it the opposite.  To me, it seemed more logical that Mr. and Mrs. should be followed by Dude and Lady in the same order. I don't think people notice, though.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

This was my logic, so that's why I was asking.

brookelynpaisley

I threw caution to the wind and did Mr. and Mrs. John Doe for all of them. But I think Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe looks better even if it's not technically correct.

squirrly

It really just shouldn't be done that way.

Ms. Jane Doe and Mr. John Doe

that's the only one that's technically appropriate that includes both names and titles.

MyNameIsNot

I figured if the people on (P&)E are mixed, the average person on my guest list is not going to notice or have any idea which is right, so I just did what I wanted. 

janedoe1113a

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[QUOTE]I figured if the people on (P&)E are mixed, the average person on my guest list is not going to notice or have any idea which is right, so I just did what I wanted. 
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

Yup, that sounds about right.  Thanks ladies!

VitaLuna

Can you pleeasssee do "Dude and Lady John and Jane Doe". That would be perfect! (and yes, I know that's not what pp was saying)

JanoBean75

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[QUOTE]When I had my invitations done, the store I bought them from told me that the woman's name comes first, because the man's first name is not supposed to be separated from his last name.  I doubt it really matters, but that's how I did it.
Posted by Koopa17[/QUOTE]

This is correct if you drop the titles:

Jane and John Doe.

If you use titles, you pretty much omit the woman's name:

Mr. and Mrs. John Doe.

I'm having a very small wedding in Vegas and an AHR a few weeks later. I'm still wavering between actual invitations (DIY) for the wedding, but if I do, I'm dropping titles because it's a very casual Elvis wedding. But for the AHR, I'm doing titles because we are having a seated dinner and it's a bit more formal than the wedding.

Kristin789

Here are your choices:

Jane and John Doe (no titles at all, both first names are used)

Mr. and Mrs. John Doe  (traditional)

Mr. and Mrs. Doe  (if there's just one couple at the mailing address you are using, then just use the last name with NO first names)

Mrs. Jane Doe and Mr. John Doe (this is what you are really asking about - both first names are used, and because the names are linked with AND, that indicates that these two people are in fact married to each other.