My fiance and I are going to be sitting down on Sunday to determine who will be inviting to our wedding so we can get ideas on number and budgets. I come from a large italian family and his family is fairly big as well. We really want (and can afford) a small wedding...hopefully around 120 people at most.
This means there are a lot of people we will not be able to invite. For my family we will probably only invite aunts/uncles and unfortunatly leave out cousins. My grandfather alone had 11 brothers/sisters and all have children. I grew up with them, but we aren't extremely close now. I would like to somehow announce we are getting married, or perhaps after we have gotten married.
Does this fit into the etiquette rules? Is it better to just leave it alone? Would sending out an announcment after we wed be rude to those who weren't invited?
I know it may be too early to make decisions on this, but I'd like to have a plan when we set up the list.