Inviting Relatives

ElleTR13

Ok, So at 10 months away, I'm trying to finalize the guest list(since I'll make any shower/engagement party lists from the master list to make sure everyone invited to a pre-wedding party is invited to the wedding). I'm trying to decide what to do about my cousins. I have a LOT of cousins. The thing is though, I rarely see any of them aside from my first cousins. But my dad sees their dads(his first cousins) quite a bit. So they are on the list, but do I invite the kids(all of whom are actually 20+ years old)? For example, Dad's first cousin R..he has 3 kids. 1 is married, my parents went to his wedding(I was invited but couldn't come), 1 lives in Ohio(I think) with his mom, and the other...no idea. Last I heard of him, I read his name in the police blotter section of the paper a summer or two ago. No joke. Another cousin? Fairly certain he's in prison(told you I never see these people).

So, what I'm asking is...is it ok to invite their parents(who my parents see a bit) and not the "kids"?

SarahPLiz

I think that's fine. I like my 1st cousins on my Mom's side, but the only one that is invited is a minor who is included on his parent's invite. They all had small weddings and I wasn't invited (even though my mother was) and I wasn't offended.  

strlzfan11

Your best plan of action IMO would to be invite people in tiers.  In other words if you plan on inviting any of your parents' siblings, invite them all.  If you want to invite any of their first cousins, invite them all.  Going any further has the potential for a ton of people especially if your parents come from big families or are very close-knit with their extended families like mine is.

danieliza1127

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[QUOTE]So, what I'm asking is...is it ok to invite their parents(who my parents see a bit) and not the "kids"?
Posted by ElleTR13[/QUOTE]

Yes it is okay.  If your parents are paying though, you might want to run that by them just to make sure.