Takesies Backsies...

crfische

Yeah yeah yeah, no regrets in life and all that jazz, BUT, if you could take something back in your life that you've done, what would it be and why?

I'd probably retract the evil and cruella deville email that I sent my dad's mistress. Not because she didn't deserve it, but because A) she's around all the time now and I should have just dealt with my dad. Not her.

Go.

temerityjane

I'd take back the entire relationship I had before Buddy. Just the whole thing.

alixzafiris

Hmm... Honestly, I loved my wedding to bits, but I'd have done a teeny, intimate garden wedding.

Also, I'd take back a couple of...er... relationships.

crfische

Teej, how come?

kellyjellybelly

I'd take back a lot of random nights in college.  Really, not so smart of me.  No harm, no foul I suppose, but still, not intelligent decisions.

katiewhompus

I would have taken back the last night I had with my ex. I hate to call it rape, but I didn't want it and sat in the bathroom crying for an hour, so I guess that's all there is to it.

[Deleted User]

i would've taken my college studies more seriously.

K Byte

I jumped from serious relationship to serious relationship in college. Of course at the time I thought all of them were ~*~THE ONE!!!1~*~ And none of them were -- I didn't meet FI until after I graduated. So I would take back my worthless college relationships (except my freshman year boyfriend, he was a good guy) and just concentrate more on having fun with my friends. I think I would have enjoyed college more if I hadn't been caught up in guy drama.

baystateapple

I would have swallowed my pride and gotten therapy and medication for my anxiety/panic attacks when I was first diagnosed, rather than waiting another six months and making myself physically sick over it.

banana468

I wouldn't have allowed myself to be pushed around by an ex BF or really anyone.  I'd be standing up for myself in my early 20's the way I do now that I'm 30.

Brie2010

I would have gone to one of the law schools that offered me a free ride instead of the highly ranked one that gave me nothing.

crfische

I also wouldn't have put up with my boyfriend in grad school...who was never really my boyfriend. GOD he was an ass. At the time, I didn't see it.

salt78

I wouldn't have been such a fuckup my entire first year of college. It took a lot of work to dig myself out of the hole I was in.

FutureMrsFezz

I would go back and go straight to grad school instead of 'taking a year off' and then not going back.  If I would've just went right after under grad I would be done this August.  Shame.

Goldlie11

I had a toxic friend for a while.  Eventually I told her to go to hell.  I wish I had done that sooner.  

mags0607

I would take back one particularly cruel (verbal) confrontation i had with my brother a few years ago. It made us both miss out on a few years with each other, and we are just not starting to talk again. If i had a cooler head, maybe it wouldn't have escalated so far.

tldh

Would have dumped a toxic friend much sooner than I did.  This friendship is what kept me from getting back to gether with an ex who is now FI.

arbolita

2004-2008?

jamiefour

I wouldn't have gotten so in debt in college on stupid crap.

Kristin&eric

The last realtionship I had, it wasnt healthy, he kept breaking up with me and i was so insecure that when he asked for me back i would untill i finally said NO!!! Then i started dating again and one of the men i was dating was FI!, hmmm maybe i wont take that back.....i wish i could have broken up with my ex-FI when i saw the signs but i was indenial

xoxpipahxox

I have quite a few, but I'll just list one for now.

I wouldn't have gotten into the nasty habit of putting myself down and continuously talking negative about myself.  This ties into not allowing others' opinions of me have such a large effect on my self-esteem/self-worth.  Which ties into some bad relationships. 

So, yeah... that.

LesPaul

I would take back the 3.5 years I wasted on the BF before DH.  But, he married someone he had known for 3 weeks and now has a 2 year old, and hates his life.  And I have my awesome DH.  So I guess we're even.

mica178

I wouldnt have eloped as an 18 year old.  Even if we never lived together and had a total sham marriage, I wish my FI could be my first husband.

And... I wouldn't have bought that house with my ex when I was 27.  I wouldn't be worrying about a wedding budget if I hadn't lost all that money.  And it'd be nice to buy a house with someone who actually intended to live in it with me.

crfische

Aw, Jesse, that's so sad. How did he die, if you don't mind me asking?

crfische

Aw, Jesse. That's so sad...

lharri12

I would take back breaking up with my boyfriend in 6th grade.  I had a crush on him for years, and after we finally started going out, I broke up with him for a more popular guy.  I broke his heart, and a couple months later he got hit by a car and died.

quotequeen

I would take back the first guy that I kissed, since I didn't even like him and only went along with it because I had never been kissed before.

And I would take back the trip to Florida to meet a guy, except that it pretty much led me to being with FI so if that would change then I can't take it back.

Also, I would send my teenage self on What Not to Wear.

Marrin713

I wouldn't have ended my first marriage in the shitty way I did.  I still would have ended it but I would have done it without all the extra hurt and collateral damage.

saschaduran

I would take back the $70,000 down payment I put down on my house that dropped over 60% in the real estate bust.

I would take back not applying to Harvard, just to see if I would get accepted.

I would take back not going straight to law school...even though if I did my life would have turned out very different, and I kind of like how it has gone.

I would take back going to Vegas for New Years 1994 with an annoying girl that makes my skin crawl, instead of my dad, who I had promised a trip to Vegas.  He passed away a month later.  

Moneypenny424

Jesse, I'm sorry, that is so sad.

Moneypenny424

I'd take back not sleeping with this guy when I was on a break from ex-BF.  The ex broke up with me while I was studying for the bar, which is such a diiick thing to do.  I then started spending a lot of time with this guy and he's probably more like me than anyone I've ever met.  We hooked up, but I felt like I was cheating--I should've done it, it would have been good .

I'd probably take back going to law school at all.  I'm a decent lawyer, but I don't think it necessarily showcases my strongest skills.

I'd take back not going on our big honeymoon right after the wedding because (as life would have it) we didn't get to go on our big trip.