So my family and my fiance's family live an hour and a half away from each other. I've picked a wedding venue in Ann Arbor that I truly love. It's basically right next door to myself and my FILs, but over an hour from my hometown. My mom thinks this will be off-putting to my side of the family and result in many not coming. She says that over an hour = destination wedding.
I don't really have a problem with it, considering there's so much to do in Ann Arbor. But, I was wondering if I should I include hotels, etc, in the invite for guest coming from my hometown? And is an hour too far to drive for a wedding?
The ceremony and reception are in the same place.
Re: Would this be considered a destination wedding?
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Your mom just may be put off a little bit that the wedding isn't in your hometown. But what you are doing is fine and you should continue on with your plans.
I do, however feel it can be a little annoying for some guests. Too close to get a room, too far that stay late, etc.
Not that I would change anything nor would it stop me from attending. It would not stop anyone I know from attending either.
Yes, I would include hotels information to ALL guests. They can decide for themselves what they want to do.
Personally I would stay at one because DH and I like to drink at weddings.
Driving an hour to a wedding is nothing, an dyour mom is being silly.
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I would include hotel info for everyone. I would probably drive up to 1.5 hours without getting a hotel room, unless it was a wedding where H and I both planned on drinking heavily. Probably wouldn't get one for an hour's drive, but you never know. If they don't want a hotel, they can just disregard that info.
Ditto PP's as 1 hour does not = a destination wedding.
But I was more struck by the fact that I would assume the point of reference should probably be from where you live, not where your parents live, to determine whether it should be considered a destination wedding.
I have a friend who got married in Iowa where they live, but the majority of our friends and we had to travel from Minneapolis. Um...that's not a destination wedding. That's just a wedding that's in the town where the couple lives.
One hour? That's just a plain old wedding. It's also quite normal.
A 1.5 hour drive is no big deal; its how far we are from my parents and we make day trips on the weekend frequently.
[QUOTE]I drive an hour to WORK. Driving an hour to a wedding is nothing, an dyour mom is being silly.
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Yep, hour each way to work here too. If you're having a destination wedding, then I'm traveling for work. Actually, in that case the company has to pay me more. Hmmm....
Nah, you're fine. The hotel info is nice just in case someone wants to stay, but many will just drive home at the end of the night.
I am sticking with the venue and calling her out. I'm honestly thinking that she's just trying to pressure me into having the venue closer to home.
[QUOTE]I drive an hour to WORK. Driving an hour to a wedding is nothing, an dyour mom is being silly.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]
This.
Maybe next time I go visit my friends on the other side of the city, I'll pack an overnight bag...
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