FI's ex-step cousin (seriously) got married about 6 months ago. It wasn't an elopement. It was just a fast 3-day planning thing with close friends and family. They're married.
About a month ago, her mother, FI's ex-step aunt, announced how much fun she's having planning her daughter's wedding. I said "isn't she married already?" She answered yes, but now she wants to do it again. This isn't my side of the family, so I bit my tongue and didn't say anything else.
Today, I got our invitation (my name was spelled wrong, but whatever). There's an insert with her registries, first of all. Then, the wording on the invite is like this:
Guy Person & Ex-Step Cousin MAIDEN NAME
Invite you to attend THEIR MARRIAGE on
Date
Join them in their celebration as they begin their new lives together.
No RSVP to return either, so that's weird.
I'm trying not to judge. Some people just do things differently. But my FI and I waited 6.5 years to have a wedding. We could have had a quick thing, then had a bigger party for presents, I guess. But I felt it was wrong. It's not really that they're having this party 6 months later, it's that they are calling it a marriage, with her maiden name on there, and she registered for stuff.
So. I know FI is going to want to go. I feel like I have to go with him, even though this whole thing really upsets me, and I'm going to sit there and feel weird the whole time. Do we get her something from the registry? What kind of card do we get? Because this isn't her wedding. I don't know what we're supposed to do. I just feel really gross--like we're just invited to give her a present, since she didn't get presents the first time because it was a small wedding. I don't want to be a bitch about it because it's family, but I don't like the idea of pretending this whole thing is something I think is a great idea, either.