MOB Seating?

lauraanne9

My dad is walking me down the aisle.  We are only going to have one attendant on each side.  My fiance's mom and dad will walk down together (their request).  My question...do I have the MOH walk down alone and then have the BM seat MOB?  Do I have him go running from the altar after walking with the MOH to seat MOB (this is my fiance's idea, and if it is not clear by the way I have written it, I am not a fan of the BM running back to the back of the church to seat my mom).  Or do I have a non-wedding party usher seat my mom?  I am leaning toward the last one as my MOH is 9 and has said she is a little uncormortable being up there with just the minister and her dad (my fiance).  And my soon to be nephew could usher with a lot of class (we would be willing to either have him wear a suit of his own or get him the same clothes the groom and BM are wearing, his choice) but is it just odd to have someone who is not in the actual wedding party act as an usher?

I guess I am trying to find a happy medium that allows me to be happy with the way my mom is seated without causing my MOH discomfort or requiring the BM to run back down/up the aisle.  

And, my mom really wants to be seated by an usher and is not comfortable walking alone.

Thoughts?

m tulli

I'm confused as to why your MOH is at the alter already before your mom is seated. Normally the brides mom is the last one seated before the wedding starts. I would either A. Have your user walk your mom down then take his place at the alter. Have your MOH walk alone down the isle. Or B if you want BM and MOH to walk dowN together have your mom escorted down by someone she choices and then your BM is free for MOH There is a third option I'm not crazy about and personally would only do it if there was a side isle he could sneak back on and thats him escorting both. I listed them in the order of personal preference. There isn't really a "right" answer

lauraanne9

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[QUOTE]I'm confused as to why your MOH is at the alter already before your mom is seated. Normally the brides mom is the last one seated before the wedding starts. I would either A. Have your user walk your mom down then take his place at the alter. Have your MOH walk alone down the isle. Or B if you want BM and MOH to walk dowN together have your mom escorted down by someone she choices and then your BM is free for MOH There is a third option I'm not crazy about and personally would only do it if there was a side isle he could sneak back on and thats him escorting both. I listed them in the order of personal preference. There isn't really a "right" answer
Posted by m tulli[/QUOTE]

<div>This is what happens when you write quickly (me)  while talking to someone else.  As it is too late to edit for clarity, let me try again...</div><div>
</div><div>This is the order we want:</div><div>
</div><div>My mom</div><div>BM and MOH</div><div>Me and my dad</div><div>
</div><div>I am trying to come up with a way that the BM can seat both of them without running down the aisle (my fiance wants both of them escorted by the BM).  There isn't one that I see, as with such a small wedding party, the BM would seat my mom, turn around and be the next person down the aisle with the MOH, provided that he then makes a dash for the back of the church after seating my mom.</div><div>
</div><div>So, I proposed a compromise of having an usher seat my mom and then having the BM walk with the MOH.  The other option was to have the BM seat my mom and stay at the altar...but that is making the MOH nervous.  And having the MOH walk with an usher not in the WP makes no sense.</div><div>
</div><div>My real question is about having the MOB seated by an usher not in the wedding party.  Is that weird?</div>

getaclue44

Not weird at all. My mom will be escorted by my brother who is not in the WP. You should really just let your mom pick.

mbuckley85

I personally would do this:

Have BM and Groom at alter.

Have FI's parents walk in together

Have your mother walk 3/4 of the way and be met by the BM and escorted to her seat

Have MOH walk alone

Have you walk with your father.

But I guess in the weddings I've been to I haven't seen the men and women walking in together with the exception of the grooms parents (together), the MOB escorted by a GM and the bride escorted by her father.

ericaandtom2012

Does your mom have a preference for her escort?  She should really have some say.  I would not recommend having the BM seat her and run back; there's just not enough time.   I think having an usher seat your mother would be fine. 

artbyallie

First of all, I would like to point out that ushers are in the wedding party. You ask them to dress up (though we didn't require anything more than a dark suit they already owned) and to do something special at the ceremony, so they're in the wedding party. You should also get them gifts, by the way, and invite them to the rehearsal dinner.

FWIW, my mom was escorted by my groom instead of having him already up at the altar.

Simply Fated

I'm looking at your order and I'm very confused as to why the best man is waiting in the back with you and not waiting in the front with the groom. If you have the best man already at the alter with the groom, then your MOH and mom can walk down together.

I feel like adding someone into your brial party just so your mom doesn't have to walk alone is kinda silly.

Did you mention a nephew that could walk her? That would be cute. And he doesn't have to be made an usher, he can just be her escort. Does she have any preference as to who walks her? Is her father still with her? Or a brother?

MJheartsWeddings

I am also making my brother an usher even though he isn't a groomsman. 

lauraanne9

Thanks for all the help on this.  My mom doesn't actually care who walks her.  She just doesn't want to walk alone.  Same with the MOH (she is 10) which is why we were thinking of having her walk with the BM.

Sigh.

I think I may see if the other nephew wants to get involved.  May have to pay him, LOL