Shower thank-yous

damaless

I've got two showers coming up in different cities, one at the end of the month and one in the first week of August.  The wedding is August 21st.  We've requested on our registry that if people would like to purchase a gift, they do it so that we can pick it up from the store in the city we live in, as opposed to the cities where the showers or wedding are taking place.  My question is whether I am still required to send the thank-you cards within three weeks after the showers take place, even though I won't actually have received most of the gifts until I am back here at the beginning of September.  I'd appreciate some advice on what to do, here.

kpwedkk

If you are able to see the registry, and who bought what, send a thank you in advance. 

damaless

When I check my online registry I can see what items were bought, but not who bought what.  I can't find that out until I go to the store to pick it up and they give me the card that comes along with it.

kpwedkk

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[QUOTE]When I check my online registry I can see what items were bought, but not who bought what.  I can't find that out until I go to the store to pick it up and they give me the card that comes along with it.
Posted by damaless[/QUOTE]

Can you go to the store in your area - for a print out of who bought what?  Since it's a national chain, they should be able to do this.

Else, I guess wait until September, and do a mass thank you :)

Mrs.B6302007

WHat are you going to open at the showers or are you picking everything up and bringing it with you to the showers?  I'm confused.

ETA: I just reread and see that you will p/u the gifts after the showers.  So, my original question stands: what are you going to open at the showers?

weddingbells2010

Hmm, interesting.  Are your shower guests going to be giving you cards at the shower?  At a friends shower a few years ago, it was requested that people have gifts shipped directly to the couple's home (in another state from the shower and wedding), and simply print out a picture of their gift to put in the card for the day of the shower.  if that's the case, you'll know after your shower who gave you what.  Then you can send them out prompty with something to the effect of, "Thank you so much for the champagne glasses! I can't wait to get home and pick them up so we can enjoy a relaxing post-wedding glass of wine.  You'll have to visit soon and enjoy one with us!"

I do remember seeing on a board post awhile back that, if you plan on writing your thank you note for a gift that hasn't yet arrived (say, a guest ordered something on backorder and send you a note announcing it), you should specifiy that you haven't yet received it in the card (like I tried to do above)- if you lead on that you've already received it, and then it arrives damaged, it's hard to go back and ask for a receipt from the gift giver.

damaless

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[QUOTE]WHat are you going to open at the showers or are you picking everything up and bringing it with you to the showers?  I'm confused. ETA: I just reread and see that you will p/u the gifts after the showers.  So, my original question stands: what are you going to open at the showers?
Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]

<div>There will probably be some lighter-weight gifts at the showers, or gifts that aren't from the registry (so people didn't see the request).  Also among my family members most wedding-related gifts consist of cash.  So I realize I will be able to send some of the thank yous right away, but my question is regarding the ones for the gifts that were purchased off the registry to be picked up in the city I live in.</div>

danieliza1127

Just send the thank you card when you pick up the gifts.  I don't see any other way for you to do it.

I bet you get more gifts at the shower than you think. 

damaless

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[QUOTE]Just send the thank you card when you pick up the gifts.  I don't see any other way for you to do it. I bet you get more gifts at the shower than you think. 
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

<div>Well, maybe so, which will be a relief because I can do the thank you cards earlier as opposed to later.  In terms of having to travel with a bunch of items, the store has said that as long as it's not TOO many items, we can bring them to the store in one city and pick them up at the store in my city.  Assuming they're from that store, of course.</div>