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Addressing STD Question
So FI and I are trying to get our STDs out this weekend and there's a few people who are in relationships (obviously will be inviting them), but because we don't know how serious some of them are right now/where they'll be in 6 months...do we include their name on the STD? For instance, FI's cousin lives out of state and he has a GF. They don't live together and we aren't exactly sure how serious it is because FI doesn't see or talk to him that often. I don't want to put her name on the STD and then have them break up and either she thinks she's still invited, or say he breaks up and gets a new GF and then he thinks his new GF isn't invited....so I'm not sure what to do there. What say you???
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Re: Addressing STD Question
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Sorry, I'm a newb here but I wondered this myself 7 mos. ago... You don't have to put the guest on until the invitations are sent.
[QUOTE]Sorry, I'm a newb here but I wondered this myself 7 mos. ago... You don't have to put the guest on until the invitations are sent.
Posted by kyurcek[/QUOTE]
I received a save the date from a friend and she did not put my husband's name on it...just mine...no guest (they came to our wedding a month ago...and I think I posted a thread about her not putting his name or guest on it).
It is out of town and he needs to request time off way in advance. So, bascially we don't know what to do. If he has to work it will be a no...if he is not invited a phone call will be made...and if he is invited and he is not working then we will go but WHY put your guests into this situation?
STDs are always less formal so I see nothing wrong with "and guest'. Many people need to plan ahead esp. if they are traveling.
EDIT: I realize if you mean the actual guest name not to worry until the invite. And guest should go on the STD if you don't have a name:)
And LOL Lucy.
[QUOTE]I knew jemm was too smart to DD Knot's all time wonky again
Posted by ootmother2[/QUOTE]
I know...I came back to this post after dinner and was like WTF...where did my post go? LOL. They must not have a very large IT staff because crap like this happens way too much.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Addressing STD Question : I received a save the date from a friend and she did not put my husband's name on it...just mine...no guest (they came to our wedding a month ago...and I think I posted a thread about her not putting his name or guest on it). It is out of town and he needs to request time off way in advance. So, bascially we don't know what to do. If he has to work it will be a no...if he is not invited a phone call will be made...and if he is invited and he is not working then we will go but WHY put your guests into this situation? STDs are always less formal so I see nothing wrong with "and guest'. Many people need to plan ahead esp. if they are traveling. EDIT: I realize if you mean the actual guest name not to worry until the invite. And guest should go on the STD if you don't have a name:)
Posted by Srasotasunshine[/QUOTE]
Oh, I definitely believe your H's name should be on that STD! I'm talking specifically about <em>if</em> you don't know if the SO will still be w/the cousin/friend/etc. at the time of the invitation. I was only saying you don't <em>have</em> to put the unknowns on there, <em>if</em> they are truly unknowns. I think if they're engaged or married the STD should be addressed to both.