Inviitations

MarciaB1

What is the etiquette about asking people for money as gift in the invitations?
Also, Is it good etiquette to call people who do not rsvp?

GeauxTigers17

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[QUOTE]What is the etiquette about asking people for money as gift in the invitations? Also, Is it good etiquette to call people who do not rsvp?
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</div><div>1) You don't mention gifts on an invitation. Ever. </div><div>
</div><div>2) It's fine to call after the RSVP date.

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lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]What is the etiquette about asking people for money as gift in the invitations? <strong> It's not good etiquette to ask for any gifts let alone money</strong><div>
</div><div>Also, Is it good etiquette to call people who do not rsvp?<strong> Yes, you can/should track down anyone who has not RSVP.  In my case I had 3 people RSVP on time but they did not get to me until the week of the wedding.  Not always is it because people are lazy, sometimes mail could be the reason they did not RSVP</strong>
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NOLAbridealmost

ACK!  No no no no no mention of gifts (monetary or otherwise) on the invites. 

And, yes, give people a day or two after the deadline and then start calling to see if they'll make it. 

graysquirrel

Mentioning gifts or money at all in an invitation implies that they are a requirement or at least an expectation of guests, so don't do it. If people want to know where you're registered or what you want, they'll ask. 

Yes, do track down people who don't RSVP. You will need to have an accurate head count for your caterer. 

thesequel

You never ask for gifts because people are not required to give you anything!  It is a choice not a requirement of attending a wedding to get a gift.  

If you are saving for something (car, house, honeymoon, furniture, a pony, et cetera), like PP said - have your family and WP spread the word.