Invitation Etiquette

skjensen21

I am unsure how to approach the "and guest" situation when inviting my friends. Only one of my friends is in a relationship. Is it rude to invite her significant other and not put "and guest" on my other friends' invitations?
Thanks in advance!

tidetravel

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[QUOTE]I am unsure how to approach the "and guest" situation when inviting my friends. Only one of my friends is in a relationship. Is it rude to invite her significant other and not put "and guest" on my other friends' invitations? Thanks in advance!
Posted by skjensen21[/QUOTE]
If someone is in a committed, long term relationship, you must invite their partner (married, engaged, living together, dating long term).  They are a social unit and must be invited together.  If someone is truly single, then you are not required by etiquette to invite them with a guest.  In addition, if the person is in the bridal party or is an OOT guest, it's a nice courtesy to extend.  Presumably, your bridal party members have spent time/money to attend your wedding, so it's nice to give them a + guest.  For OOTers, no one likes to travel alone, so extending an invite with a guest would be appreciated.

banana468

If you're inviting someone in a relationship, you need to invite the SO.

You don't need to invite people to bring random dates but you should budget that between now and the time you send invitations, all your single friends and family  could be in relationships.

patricidelight

Now I have a question... what if its your FI daughter whom is in her early 20's and not in a relationship. And the reception location is extremely tight on seating. Now FD does not seem to mind, but FI says that thats his daughter and she should be allowed a +1. but that means I have to take someone off the list. How would you feel about this? What would you do?