Seeking some advice for a good friend who is beside herself right now. She was invited to be a bridesmaid at her brother's wedding and she readily accepted knowing that expenses were a part of that duty. Last week she received an email from the MOH detailing the plans of the shower. It will be held this day, at this time, at this place. The mother of the bride has graciously donated most of the money for expenses. The MOH is asking the 6 bridesmaids to just chip in for favors and a gift - $300 each. Firstly, the day and time the MOH chose is terrible for my friend since she is a business owner and that is her major money making day. She will be losing a lot of money and inconviencing her clients as well. Second, she has already agreed to pay for the wedding photographer as her gift to the bride and groom. As the photographer and her best friend I have given her the "family discount" but she will still be paying for it none the less. She explained all of this to the MOH and on principle thinks the $300 she is asking for from each girl to be outrageous. Now she I'd getting some pretty harsh words from the family about being "cheap", only having one brother and so on. Is she wrong? How do you think she should proceed from here? She's really feeling pretty low but still thinks she's justified. Any thoughts?