I am having a lot of trouble dealing with something my Maid of Honor did. I figure that asking this here to some people who are in no way attached to the other drama going on will help me figure out if this is really messed up on her part or if my opinion is being influenced by other craziness that almost everyone else in my bridal party has been sucked into on some level. So.. The girls in my Bridal Party were absolutley wonderful about my shower; it was beautiful from the venue to the floral arrangement and favors and every aspect. BUT... (And them tellign me this in itself may be a huge no-no) apparently when I was completely out of the loop (my shower was a complete surprise) some conflicts were going on and everyone sort of unloaded on me afterwards, It turns out that my Maid of Honor did almost nothing to help the other girls. They ordered the favors, booked the place, my Mom took care of the centerpieces and shoped for the group gifts that they gave me. MOH didn't send out the invites until 2 weeks before and then didn't track the responses so noone knew how many people were coming. - This really isn't my business but they told me all of this and it is really only the background.
The part that I am upset about and not sure if I should even bring up to her is that the second I got to the shower she told me that her daughter (my god-daughter) was ill and she was leavign to go to the ER with her. So I spent a lot of my shower worried about the baby being in the ER. Only to later find out the baby had been sick since the day before and she took her to the ER then. The day of my shower she used this as an excuse and went to a BBQ of some sort or to hang in her yard with friends. Do I bring this up to her? Will it come off as tacky because of all of the other issues related to the shower? I just don't want it to seem like I am mad that she didn't do enough, because that isn't what I'm mad at. I spent my shower worried about a baby who had been to the doctor and told that it was just an allergic reaction a day earlier. If I am completely honest with myself I think she needed a way for my day to be about her.