Money Dance

mslokes

I keep hearing about a "money dance". My venue and DJ were asking if we wanted to have one. My FI likes the idea, but I don't know that I'm comfortable with it. They say it is presented in a nce manner and money is not required. It's just an opportunity for you to get time with guests one on one, but I don't know... Help!

andy71781

I personally think its tacky

MandK9

It's better to just search "dollar dance" or "money dance" and read the thousands of past threads about it than to start a new one. 

kcscejal

No, they are rude and tacky.  In some families they are very common and expected, but if your family doesn't expect it they will be offended by it.  I'll accept dollar dances for tradition's sake, but if its not already a tradition it's really not something you want to do.

mica178

If money dances are not common in your culture, I would absolutely not do one.  I've never seen one, but I couldn't take the horrified look off my face when my friend described them.  I think many of your guests if unfamiliar with them would feel the same way.

There are a lot of different ways to get time with your guests one on one.  You could walk up and talk with them.  Or just ask them to dance without charging them.

mslokes

lol. I definately would not get any dollars then! When it comes to dancing, I have two left feet. lol

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

There are other ways to spend time with everyone. Like, you know, just spending time with everyone. We did table visits, I danced with a few people (for free) and I basically just ran into and chatted with people all night.

GoBucksOH

I agree with PP. If you don't already know what it is, then chances are its not common in your circle and therefore you should not do one.

With that being said, its VERY common in this area and in my circle of family and friends. In fact, I don't think I have been to a wedding where it wasn't done. People have already asked me to be sure to do one at our wedding.

Simply Fated

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_money-dance-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b462fc46-edbd-4d43-933d-9a3f26009ca1Post:30303d1d-80e0-4d16-8cc9-581f646f4132">Re: Money Dance</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Money Dance : Maybe you get to pay what you think is fair based on the bride or groom's dancing expertise. 
Posted by MandK9[/QUOTE]
Oh great, I'd probably end up owing my guests money....

pearlaqua

These aren't always viewed as fund-raisers.  You literally pin a $1 bill on the bride and groom for a part of a dance.  It's more to wish them prosperity in their marriage than to give them $$.  I don't think you would "make" more than $100 on the dance between the two of you so it's not as tacky as say, a cash bar.

Again, this is only the custom in some cultures and if it is not the custom in yours, then maybe having the DJ introduce it as a symbolic wish to the couple from the guests for prosperity would explain things.

Doehling

I'm from a traditional Sicilian family and the money dance is absolutely required for us. Some of my cousins let their guests pin the money to the dress - I'm not all about that. I think we will ask MOH and BM to collect. At Sicilian weddings, its not a "dollar" dance and people come prepared for it. I've read on the boards how many people hate it - but I think it depends on what your guests will think! Mine would wonder why we didn't do it, so we are going to do it.