B listed

leatba

I don't usually post on this board, but I was totally b listed. I just got an invite for a Feb 16 wedding today. The groom to be asked for my address last week so I figured a March maybe even April wedding. I see this as a gift grab. Although I am RSVPing no because of timing am I required to send a gift?

tlc35

No, you are never required to give a gift and in this situation I definitely wouldn't.

BMoreBride6

You are never required to send a gift.  My parents got an invite for a wedding once.  Only problem was they recieved the invite 2 weeks AFTER the printed RSVP date.  The invite was post marked 10 days after the RSVP date.  

lauralaur

You should only send a gift if you can afford to and feel so inclined.

Personally, I would not be sending one.

ridedatbike

Our family once got b listed. The entire situation was really a cluster fcuk. We not only didn't get the invitation the day of but it was a verbal one thar went through my grandmother. The couple who had lived with my parents, and id also related to us, went through my grandmother to invite my parents and myself. Im over eighteen so to be technically correct they should have sent three invitations. I don't really care about my own.but they could have atleast two! Needless to say no gift was sent. My grand mother went and im pretty sure she gave a pretty generous gift but my parents were pretty damn butt hurt so they neither attended nor sent a gift.

Jen4948

No, you don't need to send a gift.

QueerFemme

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_b-listed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:b52ceb2d-95a7-445c-a0c3-1f795d3e2aeaPost:ad950ca2-3332-4504-ab24-9cf93c2d08d5">B listed</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't usually post on this board, but I was totally b listed. I just got an invite for a Feb 16 wedding today. The groom to be asked for my address last week so I figured a March maybe even April wedding. I see this as a gift grab. Although I am RSVPing no because of timing am I required to send a gift?
Posted by leatba[/QUOTE]

I would decline and not send a gift.

AJuliaNJ

Who are the bride and groom? It is not necessarily an insult to be B-listed if they are kind of B-list friends of yours. They probably wanted to invite you, but had a certain cutoff due to budget or space and when space opened up, they were excited to be able to include you. I'd only be insulted if there were close friends and I expected to be invited as A-list. I'm not clear which is the situation from your OP.

However, with this late notice, I don't think a gift is expected or necessary if you don't attend.

leatba

First cousin. We grew up together. Re:B listed:Who are the bride and groom? It is not necessarily an insult to be Blisted if they are kind of Blist friends of yours. They probably wanted to invite you, but had a certain cutoff due to budget or space and when space opened up, they were excited to be able to include you. I'd only be insulted if there were close friends and I expected to be invited as Alist. I'm not clear which isnbsp;the situation from your OP. However, with this late notice, I don't think a gift is expected or necessary if you don't attend. Posted by AndreaJulia

AJuliaNJ

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_b-listed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b52ceb2d-95a7-445c-a0c3-1f795d3e2aeaPost:075e3db1-2640-408f-b4ce-1329164cf7e9">Re:B listed</a>:
[QUOTE]First cousin. We grew up together.
Posted by leatba[/QUOTE]

Wow, sorry to hear! I can see why you'd be hurt. I'd definitely skip.