Can I invite guests to reception only?

amys325

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[QUOTE]The thing is . . . your opinion is a little out there. . . or, hard to understand at least.  If you have a logical reason that you would love to be not invited to something, I think you might want to put it out there. 
Posted by SirJuliusVonHaast[/QUOTE]

Don't you listen to your friends?! Real life opinions are not allowed on the etiquette board. Please PM me if you'd like an answer. FTW!

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I invite guests to reception only? : Don't you listen to your friends?! Real life opinions are not allowed on the etiquette board. Please PM me if you'd like an answer. FTW!
Posted by amys325[/QUOTE]
Fail. <div>You're trying to<em>o</em> hard.</div>

amys325

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I invite guests to reception only? : Fail.  You're trying to hard.
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]

You mean "too"...

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I invite guests to reception only? : You mean "too"...
Posted by amys325[/QUOTE]
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SirJuliusVonHaast

It's okay, you are entitled to your opinions, no need to be so defensive. 

I don't think anyone here was trying to attack you, we just think tiered weddings are really rude, and you said that you love them but refuse to explain why and are kind of being a martyr about the whole people not agreeing with your opinion thing. If you want people to understand, maybe you should explain the logic behind your opinion, rather than bitching about the fact that people disagree with it.

amys325

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[QUOTE]It's okay, you are entitled to your opinions, no need to be so defensive.  I don't think anyone here was trying to attack you, we just think tiered weddings are really rude, and you said that you love them but refuse to explain why and are kind of being a martyr about the whole people not agreeing with your opinion thing. If you want people to understand, maybe you should explain the logic behind your opinion, rather than bitching about the fact that people disagree with it.
Posted by SirJuliusVonHaast[/QUOTE]

Listen, I was told that this is an Etiquette board where only etiquette rules are supposed to be expressed. It's not appropriate for me to type them here. I would be more than happy to explain my reasons in a more appropriate medium as a PM. Feel free to message me your questions about my POV and I'd be happy to answer you there. And BTW I dont feel attacked at all. I am very confident in my reasoning. I might not always be "etiquette appropriate", but I say what all of you are too scared to say. I'm just keeping it real.

verymegv

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I invite guests to reception only? : Listen, I was told that this is an Etiquette board where only etiquette rules are supposed to be expressed. It's not appropriate for me to type them here. I would be more than happy to explain my reasons in a more appropriate medium as a PM. Feel free to message me your questions about my POV and I'd be happy to answer you there. And BTW I dont feel attacked at all. I am very confident in my reasoning. I might not always be "etiquette appropriate", but I say what all of you are too scared to say. <strong>I'm just keeping it real.</strong>
Posted by amys325[/QUOTE]

<div>yeah, real rude.</div>

Ciaram22

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I invite guests to reception only? : Listen, I was told that this is an Etiquette board where only etiquette rules are supposed to be expressed. It's not appropriate for me to type them here. I would be more than happy to explain my reasons in a more appropriate medium as a PM. Feel free to message me your questions about my POV and I'd be happy to answer you there. And BTW I dont feel attacked at all. I am very confident in my reasoning. I might not always be "etiquette appropriate", but I say what all of you are too scared to say. I'm just keeping it real.
Posted by amys325[/QUOTE]
YGPM

SirJuliusVonHaast

If you feel so confident in your reasoning, why not just type it right here?

You know, instead of continuing to be completely patronizing about the fact that someone made a distinction between opinions and correct etiquette. 

ekrayfie

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[QUOTE]If you feel so confident in your reasoning, why not just type it right here? You know, instead of continuing to be completely patronizing about the fact that someone made a distinction between opinions and correct etiquette. 
Posted by SirJuliusVonHaast[/QUOTE]

I like you.

And OP, don't do it.  Really.

SirJuliusVonHaast

Why thank you!

ootmother2

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I invite guests to reception only? : Listen, I was told that this is an Etiquette board where only etiquette rules are supposed to be expressed. It's not appropriate for me to type them here. I would be more than happy to explain my reasons in a more appropriate medium as a PM. Feel free to message me your questions about my POV and I'd be happy to answer you there. And BTW I dont feel attacked at all. I am very confident in my reasoning. I might not always be "etiquette appropriate", but I say what all of you are too scared to say. I'm just keeping it real.
Posted by amys325[/QUOTE]


Amy, cool your jets for now.  You're new on the board and you don't want to make enemies this early, trust me.

amys325

FFS (thank you for teaching me this!) Seriously, I'm not mad! You all need to chill out. And honestly, I was told not to post my OPINION on an ETIQUETTE board. So that's what I'm doing... I respect what you all have to say completely, but I definitely don't agree with it all. I can't be the first to come out of the wood work and disagree with you! But since you are all dying to know why I'd love to not be invited to the ceremony, but would happy to be invited to the reception, here it goes. IMHO, the ceremony is boring for everyone besides the B & G (yes, even my own ceremony and that's why we provided alcoholic beverages AND a word search on the program during the ceremony!). It's their intimate moment. Unless I'm in the wedding, which would mean I'm a good friend and I would actually be involved, I'd love to save my time and just CELEBRATE with the B & G. The reception is for the guests. You can have a ceremony with only the B & G. You can't have a reception without guests. There you have it. My honest to goodness OPINION. Not ETIQUETTE.

ekrayfie

I guess I thought grown ups (and most older kids) would have the attention span to sit through my ceremony.  And that the people who travelled across the country to celebrate with us would actually want to see the vows exchanged (you know, the reason for the party).  But that's just my opinion.  Clearly the ceremony should be a party too, complete with activities.



I should go to bed.  My head kinda hurts now.

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]I guess I thought grown ups (and most older kids) would have the attention span to sit through my ceremony.  And that the people who travelled across the country to celebrate with us would actually want to see the vows exchanged (you know, the reason for the party).  But that's just my opinion.  Clearly the ceremony should be a party too, complete with activities. I should go to bed.  My head kinda hurts now.
Posted by ekrayfie[/QUOTE]
NM, that's what happens when you block people apparently. I thought you were talking to yourself or got caught in the knot warp!

ekrayfie

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I invite guests to reception only? : Huh?
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]

Sarcasm.  Sorry, long day, I guess it wasn't clear.  I just don't quite understand providing a wordsearch or alcohol for the ceremony.  Then again, mine won't be all that long (15-20 mins), so maybe my guests will survive it.

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]FFS (thank you for teaching me this!) Seriously, I'm not mad! You all need to chill out. And honestly, I was told not to post my OPINION on an ETIQUETTE board. So that's what I'm doing... I respect what you all have to say completely, but I definitely don't agree with it all. I can't be the first to come out of the wood work and disagree with you! But since you are all dying to know why I'd love to not be invited to the ceremony, but would happy to be invited to the reception, here it goes. IMHO, the ceremony is boring for everyone besides the B & G (yes, even my own ceremony and that's why we provided alcoholic beverages AND a word search on the program during the ceremony!). It's their intimate moment. Unless I'm in the wedding, which would mean I'm a good friend and I would actually be involved, I'd love to save my time and just CELEBRATE with the B & G. The reception is for the guests. You can have a ceremony with only the B & G. You can't have a reception without guests. There you have it. My honest to goodness OPINION. Not ETIQUETTE.
Posted by amys325[/QUOTE]
<div>Hahahahaha.</div><div>Seriously,  thanks for the laugh. You are a very speshul girl. </div>

ekrayfie

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I invite guests to reception only? : NM, that's what happens when you block people apparently. I thought you were talking to yourself or got caught in the knot warp!
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]

Oh, so blocking means you don't have to see people anymore?  But things could get confusing...

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I invite guests to reception only? : Sarcasm.  Sorry, long day, I guess it wasn't clear.  I just don't quite understand providing a wordsearch or alcohol for the ceremony.  Then again, mine won't be all that long (15-20 mins), so maybe my guests will survive it.
Posted by ekrayfie[/QUOTE]
No no, you were perfectly clear, I didn't see the post you were responding to so was very confused. I'm going to provide shots of absinthe and individual DVD players tied to the back of each chair during our ceremony, I can't imagine anyone would actually want to you know, see their loved one get married :D

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I invite guests to reception only? : Oh, so blocking means you don't have to see people anymore?  But things could get confusing...
Posted by ekrayfie[/QUOTE]
Haha and so it did. 

ekrayfie

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I invite guests to reception only? : No no, you were perfectly clear, I didn't see the post you were responding to so was very confused. I'm going to provide shots of absinthe and individual DVD players tied to the back of each chair during our ceremony, I can't imagine anyone would actually want to you know, see their loved one get married :D
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]

LOL.  Are you sure that will be enough?!?!?!?!  (<- extra punctuation for emphasis)

Kristin789

>>Is this rude?

Oh yes.

>>Some people told me no

Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat?  These people do not like you.  They want to set you up.  Do not ask these people any more questions about planning the most important formal event of your life.

>>my dad always jokes that brides and grooms should hand out reception "tickets" at the wedding ceremony because some people skip out on the ceremony and focus on the party instead.

I have never heard of people skipping out on the ceremony and coming only to the reception.  In my area, that's just not done.

ootmother2

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I invite guests to reception only? : Hahahahaha. Seriously,  thanks for the laugh. You are a very speshul girl. 
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]

She us speshful, isn't she?

not to mention the lack of manners she's showing

SirJuliusVonHaast

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[QUOTE]FFS (thank you for teaching me this!) Seriously, I'm not mad! You all need to chill out. And honestly, I was told not to post my OPINION on an ETIQUETTE board. So that's what I'm doing...  <div><strong>overreact much?</strong></div><div>
</div><div>I respect what you all have to say completely, but I definitely don't agree with it all. I can't be the first to come out of the wood work and disagree with you!  </div><div><strong>Actually, people disagree on here all the time, but they are way less crazy about it.</strong></div><div>
</div><div>But since you are all dying to know why I'd love to not be invited to the ceremony, but would happy to be invited to the reception, here it goes. IMHO, the ceremony is boring for everyone besides the B & G (yes, even my own ceremony and that's why we provided alcoholic beverages AND a word search on the program during the ceremony!). It's their intimate moment. Unless I'm in the wedding, which would mean I'm a good friend and I would actually be involved, I'd love to save my time and just CELEBRATE with the B & G. The reception is for the guests. You can have a ceremony with only the B & G. You can't have a reception without guests.</div><div><strong>You understand that invitations are not subpoenas, right? You are welcome to go to the reception only for any wedding you are invited to, if you hate ceremonies so much. It would probably still be nice to know that you were welcome at the ceremony, had you wanted to go.</strong></div><div>
</div><div> There you have it. My honest to goodness OPINION. Not ETIQUETTE.</div><div><strong>*eyeroll*</strong> </div><div>
Posted by amys325[/QUOTE]

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opalsky007

This is absurd. All of it. You are allowed to post whatever you want, whenever you want, as long as it doesn't violate the terms of service. If you give lousy advice though, someone's going to call you on it. We do that. It's the reason there were five effing cash bar threads the other day: because we don't all agree on the finer points of it, and discuss them when they come up. Holy overdramatic, Amy.

And while we're on the subject of the terms of service: jeng5077, I've seen you exhibit the same behavior on other boards that got you banned here the first time. Clean it up, or find another site where you like the people and don't feel the need to call them bitches for not agreeing with you. Or I can keep banning you, and you can keep adding numbers to the end of your SN. Your choice.