What to write in the note?

Sagenhaft

My family just threw a bridal shower for FI and I. My aunt and uncle gave us cash instead of an actual gift. We opened the card, saw the cash and put it back in the card and envelope. Well, when we got home the money was missing. There were other people helping us get all the gifts into the car, and it's unclear whether the money was lost or stolen (I hate to think it was stolen).

What do we write in the thank-you note? I read before that you shouldn't thank people for gifts you never got the chance to use, but we do know exactly how much money went missing and who it was from. Should we explain what happened or just thank them and not mention it?

2dBride

I'd say to thank them and not mention it.  It's not like a check on which they could stop payment.  And if you say it was lost, they may feel obligated to replace it.

shannonalise

Absolutely send a thank-you note. I would thank the person and make no mention of the missing money. Just call it a loss, send a nice thank-you as if you had the money and were able to use it and move on.

Nothing you can do, but don't neglect a thank-you.

rknox88

Don't mention it being lost. Just thank them for their generous gift.

Also, I don't know if you were planning on mentioning the exact amount they gave you but just in case don't do that.  Just use adjectives like generous or lovely

 'Thank you so much for the generous gift-we will surely be able to put it to good use!'

Sorry about the missing cash-cash always comes in handy

danieliza1127

I would just write the note as if you received it and all was well.  I wouldn't tell them that it was lost or stolen.  That's unfortunate, but they don't need to know. 

Sagenhaft

Thanks, ladies. I know it was a lot of money for them to give -- they have 3 kids and only one of them works because the kids have special needs and need 24/7 attention, so I really feel terrible that they tried to give and it didn't make it all the way to us. But I will just buy something off the registry and mentally think of it as a gift from them.