I have said my entire life that I don't want kids who aren't in my wedding at my wedding. I have been to several weddings were parents showed up with uncontrollable children in t-shirts, jeans and sweat pants of all things! My wedding is outdoor but it is formal and it says so on my save the dates and invites. Recently one of the groomsman stated that they wanted to make a family trip out of our wedding as they are coming from California to New Mexico were he is from, were we live and were our wedding will be. My question is how do I tell them politely that we don't want children at the wedding who aren't in it? I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but I also dont trust people enough to keep their kids under control(especially the people mentioned above). HELP!!!