Kids

jlaird86

I have said my entire life that I don't want kids who aren't in my wedding at my wedding. I have been to several weddings were parents showed up with uncontrollable children in t-shirts, jeans and sweat pants of all things! My wedding is outdoor but it is formal and it says so on my save the dates and invites. Recently one of the groomsman stated that they wanted to make a family trip out of our wedding as they are coming from California to New Mexico were he is from, were we live and were our wedding will be. My question is how do I tell them politely that we don't want children at the wedding who aren't in it? I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but I also dont trust people enough to keep their kids under control(especially the people mentioned above). HELP!!!

LesPaul

Wow.  This has never been asked before.  What do you think, ladies?

Habs2Hart

Please, please, for the love of everything do a search.  This topic is asked at least 3 times a day.  It's also in the sticky. 

sarabellam

I think wearing jeans AND sweatpants to a wedding means you are overdressed and will be way too hot. Unless your outside wedding is in Taos in February. Oh, but the overheating will be mitigated by the fact that they are wearing t-shirts. Maybe they won't be too hot after all. YW!

rlavach

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[QUOTE]I have said my entire life that I don't want kids who aren't in my wedding at my wedding. I have been to several weddings were parents showed up with uncontrollable children in t-shirts, jeans and sweat pants of all things! My wedding is outdoor but it is formal and it says so on my save the dates and invites. Recently one of the groomsman stated that they wanted to make a family trip out of our wedding as they are coming from California to New Mexico <strong>were</strong> he is from, <strong>were</strong> we live and <strong>were</strong> our wedding will be. My question is how do I tell them politely that we don't want children at the wedding who aren't in it? I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but I also dont trust people enough to keep their kids under control(especially the people mentioned above). HELP!! !
Posted by jlaird86[/QUOTE]<div>
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</div><div>Sorry, if it was once, I'd let it slide. But 3 times, couldn't do it. </div><div>
</div><div>Read the previous 8 billion posts regarding this subject.

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LDYGTR13

Kids smell bad. I dont want them at my wedding either.

dumdumfroggie

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kids-30?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b7e24acd-00d5-4d8b-bdda-abef7e9cec6aPost:5b0a93f9-237c-406b-920c-e509407273a0">Re: Kids</a>:
[QUOTE]Kids smell bad. I dont want them at my wedding either.
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

<div>You could always Febreze them.  Then they'd smell super fresh!</div>

deanozzi

My first attempt wedding was the same. We were getting married on a Yacht and even my 2 year old sister was not coming. The polite thing to do is to maybe offer a baby-sitting service where the kids can still have a blast with fun and games. We were having one at the hotel where the Yacht was leaving from and no one was upset!

StephBeanWed61502

Buy some of those crates that people use when training puppies and put the kids inside, then use them as centerpieces.

[OP - and anyone else who takes themselves too seriously - I'm obviously kidding.  Read the other threads about this topic on this board and make your decision accordingly.]

sweetcanadian1979

I get the no kids at the wedding thing but i honestly would make an exception for an OUT OF TOWN groomsman. What is more important? Your fiance not having his friend there or you not having his kids there? Most people would not be comfortable leaving the kids with a stranger. It sounds like you don't give a damn about that so just kick him out, solves the problem. 

***complete sarcasm, i would never advocate that. 

aragx6

Just address the invitation to exactly who is invited. You'll probably have to call some people and explain that unfortunately no children were invited. You'll probably have some people not come. if you're OK with thatm having a child-free wedding is fine.

Also, yeah you shouldn't mention a dress code on your invitations. Super rude.

Edit: Unless it's literally a black-tie affair