Totally random question

abbalish

So let's say that you and your H have been married for a little over a year, and you are going on a big family vacation and staying in a big beach house.  Unfortunately everyone else has kids and therefore gets their pick of the rooms, and being the only childless ones, you get last pick.  You can choose:
a) Having a private bathroom but sleeping in twin beds that cannot be pushed together, and there's no room for an air mattress on the floor
b) Having a double (not king or queen!) bed, but sharing a bathroom.

laurenclaire1386

I'd much rather sleep with FI and share a bathroom. Fuuck a twin bed and sleeping apart. Sharing a bathroom doesn't really bother me.

Knittibell

Are you big snugglers? If so, double bed- if you like to cuddle for a bit then have space, I'd go for the twin beds- also, and this may be TMI, if you're sharing a house the only time you might be able to be discreetly 'intimate' could be in the shower, so that private bath may be nice!

salt78

Maybe I'm weird, but I'd want my own bed. Not that I don't like my husband, but I don't like being touched when I sleep and double beds are small. 

nhelene

Double bed.  It's not even about the nooky... we slept on enough bunks and tiny couches together in college, we're both pretty unwilling to do it now. 

abbalish

salt, me too.  Also, we have a king at home and anything else feels tiny.  I know we're not the most romantic people in the world, but I am honestly just curious what other people think.

temerityjane

Private bathroom, to be sure. I know I should get over it or whatever, but I don't care. I need a completely secure situation to do my more involved bathroom business.

quotequeen

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[QUOTE]Are you big snugglers? If so, double bed- if you like to cuddle for a bit then have space, I'd go for the twin beds- also, and this may be TMI, if you're sharing a house the only time you might be able to be discreetly 'intimate' could be in the shower, so that private bath may be nice!
Posted by Knittibell[/QUOTE]

Hmm, I would never shower with my SO if I was in a vacation house with other people.  I would definitely go for the double bed.

smokeybailey

I voted for the private bathroom.  Sometimes a girl just needs to sit and, uh, er, think.

Simply Fated

As it is now we sleep on a twin bed, so it wouldn't bother us to have to do it again for a short while. Plus, we'd have our choice between two beds. And if it did get too close for comfort, we could sleeping in seperate beds, but same room.
I might be biased because we're not married and living together yet. My answer could change once I was married, but probably not.

salt78

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[QUOTE]Also, we have a king at home and anything else feels tiny. 
Posted by abbalish[/QUOTE]

<div>Us too. And somehow I still manage to take up all of it. Oops.</div>

abbalish

The way it usually works with us is, I take up 25% of it, H takes up 25% of it, and the cat spreads out horizontally between us and takes up every available inch. 

Or, sometimes she sleeps on my side, and encroaches in on me throughout the night.  Like, if I roll toward the middle, she rides the blankets inwards so that eventually I have like 6 inches to work with.

pooh8402

I would spend more time in the bed than the bathroom, especially at the beach. the bathroom on beach vacations is for showering and peeing/pooping, that's it. what minimal primping there is, you can do in your room.

mica178

How long is the vacation?

My FI and I have been stuck in foreign hotels with twin beds.  At some point in the night, I'll get tired of being in bed alone, and I'll squish into his bed, so we'll just snuggle in one of the tiny beds, college-style.  After I fall asleep, if he's still awake, sometimes he'll move to the other bed.

I'd rather have the private bathroom.  4 adults sharing one bathroom is a pain.

nhelene

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[QUOTE]I would spend more time in the bed than the bathroom, especially at the beach. the bathroom on beach vacations is for showering and peeing/pooping, that's it. what minimal primping there is, you can do in your room.
Posted by pooh8402[/QUOTE]

Every time I've ever stayed in a big beach house, the 'private bathrooms' are really only private at night anyway.  If somebody has to pee or shower, they're going to find an available bathroom.

Kristin&eric

I change my mind you are right going from a king to a double, awful i would rather sleep by myself. FI and I sleep in a double when we see his mom and it feels like a twin! I say get your on bathroom and screw te double!

abbalish

One week.  We'd probably end up sharing with my sister and her husband and baby.  Or else my parents.

abbalish

The double bed peeps have overtaken the private bathroom lovers, almost two-to-one.  Man, y'all are some romantic cuddlers.

ipen44

I would rather have my own bathroom.  You can "cuddle" on a twin before sleeping and then hit your own bed for sleep.  I remember an episode of Seinfeld where Kramer and his girl found that they enjoyed this type of arrangement : )  Plus, I like privacy for after "cuddle" clean up so the private bathroom is a must.

pooh8402

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Totally random question : Every time I've ever stayed in a big beach house, the 'private bathrooms' are really only private at night anyway.  If somebody has to pee or shower, they're going to find an available bathroom.
Posted by nhelene[/QUOTE]
exactly. you just go wherever. and lock the door.

noodle_oo

I had to think about this for a while.  FI really hates shared bathrooms.  However, on vacation is the one time we do get cuddly and romantic (life is so busy, sometimes we take it for granted at home!).  So I think I'd much rather have the option to be cuddly and sleep together, even if on a double bed.  We shared twin beds in college, and now we have a king, so no way we're doing that again!  So if we got the room wtih twin beds, we'd be apart the whole vacation!

and yeah, if it is a famly vacation, the bathrooms aren't going to be private anyway.

MattsPenguin

I'm in the "we had a double for a while, but now have a king and could never go back" camp.  Seriously I have issues with sleeping and need my space.  Plus at our beach house the private bathrooms are definitely private. 

I liked the comment on the "bathroom after cuddle" comment.  We could definitely make a twin bed work.

LauraT25

Maybe FI's family is weird, but we go to a beach house with them every summer and we NEVER use each other's private bathrooms, ever.  There's usually a tiny toilet-only bathroom on every floor that people use if they're not on the same floor as their bedroom.  None of us would even consider walking through another person's bedroom.  I'm pretty sure my own family would be the same way.

I vote twins and private bathroom, but I guess if you're in a family that use's each other's bathroom anyway, maybe I'd go with the double.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

FI and I ended up in a hotel room with 2 double beds once instead of a king, which is what we always request. (The hotel didn't have any more kings when we checked in.) It was actually fine. I mean, we always sleep together in a queen bed, usually with at least one cat, so it was fairly relaxing, IMO. We both slept okay and we had privacy.

I Want Cake

I'd go for the twin beds with private bathroom.  I can't be touched when I sleep, and it might be kind of fun to play "'50s bedroom" for a weekend.  Nothing says you can't have your snuggle time then separate to sleep.

But the thought of not being able to get into the bathroom when I needed to?  Oh HELL NO! 

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]I would spend more time in the bed than the bathroom, especially at the beach. the bathroom on beach vacations is for showering and peeing/pooping, that's it. what minimal primping there is, you can do in your room.
Posted by pooh8402[/QUOTE]

See, I don't care about the privacy for straightening my hair. I care about it for all that other stuff you mentioned.

But I also agree that the length of the vacation might factor into this.

And I also wouldn't be getting it on during a family vacation with a bunch of relatives in adjoining rooms.

abbalish

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Totally random question : See, I don't care about the privacy for straightening my hair. I care about it for all that other stuff you mentioned.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

Me too.

I'm really not planning on getting it on during the vacation - there are 16 of us, including 6 kids aged 6 and under.  Too much hecticness and potential to get caught.  It's not like a fancy hotel vacation.  A week won't kill us.

Also, I don't see us barging into other bathrooms - except for two powder rooms (and one hall bath, which we'd be sharing if we took that room), the rest of the bathrooms are in the bedrooms.

Interesting that so many of the posters would go for the private bathroom but the poll isn't leaning that way.

Meg1979

I say private bathroom. It's so much more comfortable.  Of course, I have my own bedroom. 

srkropf

Hands down, sleep together--share a bathroom. Besides, if there are a lot of people, all the bathrooms are probably going to end up being shared-- are you really going to have a private bathroom and tell the seven year old that he has to wait because he's not allowed in your private bathroom?

Knittibell

I'm with you on the not getting it on during family vacations- I just feel waay too self conscious. Honestly, I think it's a 50/50 with pros and cons, but sounds like a great time, either way!

karmellah

twin beds so i wont hear him complaining about me taking the blankets. plus we can do the nasty in any sized bed and in the tub if we want