Guest list question

texasgurly13

My younger brother (who is going to be a GM) doesn't have a GF at the moment, but a lot can change between now and August when FI and I get married.  He and I are close, so I will be one of the first to know if he does.  

My question is should I go ahead and leave room in the guest list for him to have a plus one just in case he has a GF by that time.  He is an adult and lives away from my parents so he would be getting his own invitation.

Along those same lines, should I leave room for my 3 unmarried cousins (who I am also close to) to bring a plus one too even if I know they are not in a relationship right now?  They are also all adults who would be getting their own invitations.  

I'm not worried about my brother or these cousins not knowing anyone at the wedding if they don't bring a plus one.  We are a really close-knit extended family, and I'm inviting all my aunts and uncles.  

The only reason I am asking this this far in advance is because I am trying to figure out the guest list so I can get the STDs sent out.  

TIA!

Avion22

I would leave room in your guest-list for them to bring a date.  Then when you send out invitations, make one final check to see if they are dating anyone, and go with that.

I met my fiance at my cousin's wedding.  We were both invited without guests -- we sat next to each other, and the rest is history.  So I'm a big proponent for NOT bringing guests to a wedding if you're truly single, becuase weddings are a great place to meet other single people:-)

kate2188

Definitely leave room in the guest list in case these people enter into relationships. A lot can happen in 7 months. However, you don't HAVE to give them all a guest if they're not in relationships when invitation sending time comes around, although it is a nice gesture.

sweetcanadian1979

I would leave room but you do not have to extend a +1 if they are single at the time of invites going out. Be prepared though, situations can change after they go out, if they are still single well then you saved yourself a couple plates.

AlmostMrsStrong

BP members always get a +1. Trust me, I almost had to give a certain family member one, and there's no telling who'll show up. I ended up not asking said family member (for different reasons).

As for the cousins, it's a nice gesture, but not necessary. I'd leave the wiggle room just in case though.

Habs2Hart

I'd send out STD's with just the names of those you are 100% certain are on the guest list.  STD's aren't really required, and if you aren't certain on your list, they can add a whole lot of hassle in the future.  Not everyone who is invited needs to get an STD.  Maybe reserve those for family or out of town guests who might need some notice for travel arrangements and leave others off the list for now. 

aragx6

I do think you should invite your brother with a guest regardless of his relationship status. All our BP members get a date even if they're not in a relationship. Other singles at the wedding will not though. They're spending a lot of money and time to be in our wedding, and it seemed like the nice thing to do.

cindyn9178

Do you have 4 other people that you want to/need to invite in place of these 4 plus ones? Is your guest list at its max right now and you simply cannot include another 4 people? If not, then just include them in your count for now, and if you decide not to invite them later, then you'll save that extra money.

STDs only get sent to the actual person invited, so you wouldn't include "and guest" on the STD. Just send the STDs to the actual people now, and then you can determine later on if you want to include a guest for each of them.