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Don't call the bride?

I'm putting together a contact list for my WP and I found an example of one a while back that had something on it saying "Don't call the bride!" After my bachelorette party and bridal showers where I fielded phone calls from almost all of my girls, FMIL, FSIL and general guests to answer questions I sent them the answers weeks before, "What's the address again?" "What city are we going to?" "I can't find the email"  I'm wondering how terrible it would be to put this on our wedding party information packet.

My BM's at least have one other WP member they know and could call comfortably with no issues if they needed help and of course I would want them to call me if they really needed had an emergency, but calling me to ask me the venue address when they have gotten it at least in 6 different ways, not so much.  I'm guessing most people would do this, but I'm just worried about a repeat and getting overwhelmed with phone calls from 7 bridesmaids, my FIL's, vendors, parents etc.

How would you handle this or how did you handle this? I'm a planner and I think that if I give you the information in a hard copy and an email, an adult should be able to follow directives without having too much trouble. I wouldn't think this would be an issue, but with my previous experiences I'm thinking differently.

Re: Don't call the bride?

  • I didn't really get any calls on my wedding day.  My venue coordinator took care of the outside vendors.  My BMs were basically with me all day.   DH hung out with his GMs all day.  We had transportation for everyone, so finding the location was not an issue. 


    Our wedding was OOT for everyone.  Before the wedding we sent out an email with some information on dates, times and locations.  I'm sure some people still called us, but it was by no means stressful. 






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • The not answering will be the hard part! I'm such a worry-wart!
  • I agree with PP....You could also just carry your phone, but have the note say "For any questions or assistance on the day of the wedding, please call __________" and have that be whoever you would have designated instead of the bride.

    It's a really good idea to have a contact person; you don't want to be everyone's concierge on your wedding day.
  • Give your phone to someone else - MOH, coordinator, whomever.  Let them handle it.
  • I got no calls like that. There was a wedding website with directions, maps, times and dates. Our venue was an hour outside the city, but no one had a problem. If someone is worried about that then they can ask the MOH or another member of the bridal party to field calls if they feel comfortable. Honestly though, I have never known this to be a problem for any bride I've been a BM for.
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  • Everyone in my bridal party has asked me for a day-of timeline, so I caved and made one.  On  it, I put a note:

    "After 11am, the bride will not have her phone.  Please contact XYZ with any questions/concerns"

    That way it's not offputting.  Just informative and helpful.
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  • The shower was not planned by anyone in my WP nor was my Bach Party. They all attended though.
  • Found this earlier on Pinterest and thought it was cute. Included with the wedding timeline was card with contacts on it. At the top said " Lost? Confused? Can't find your pants? Please call anyone but the bride".

    http://ohsobeautifulpaper.com/2012/05/nick-lindseys-creative-wedding-and-rehearsal-dinner-invitations/
  • I WANTED to be a contact person in the event something went wrong.  I didn't want to show up on the day of the wedding and be surprised by something that went horribly wrong.

    With that said though, I did get a little bitchy when I got a call from a friend about 2 hours before the wedding who was on the way to the wedding and found a puppy on the side of the roard and wanted to know where the closest vet was.

    I was thrilled that they stopped and picked up the puppy... but, they couldn't have googled "vet clinics"?  

    My phone rang or buzzed with text messages all morning. I ignored a lot of them.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dont-call-the-bride?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b85cd3d3-9ed6-459b-a38b-146d413b7607Post:f3d7b753-4b8c-4eeb-ae32-448a8fd78058">Re: Don't call the bride?</a>:
    [QUOTE]The not answering will be the hard part! I'm such a worry-wart!
    Posted by Lolagirl2012[/QUOTE]

    <div>You will be so busy you will not even notice.  I thought I was going to be a worry wart, and as it turned out I didn't even think to ask if the cake arrived ok...just wasn't even thinking about it...</div>
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  • Wow, Retread, makes me glad I had an 11 am ceremony and was getting ready at 7 in the morning!
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