How do I answer this?

LDYGTR13

So out of the blue the woman I nanny for every day asked me on my facebook wall if "monetary gifts are our preference for the wedding." I've yet to answer her.

Beyond the fact that asking me something like that on facebook isn't exactly the best idea - I assume other people will eventually ask me this as well.

Sure, we'd LOVE money instead of something we don't need or want, but I know you're not supposed to ASK for money. This woman doesn't know anyone I know other than FI - so it's not like she can "hear it through the grapevine" - so how do I answer this question?

smokeybailey

If they are, then say, why, yes.  That is so generous of you.  Thank you so much.  Really, you are too kind.  However, if you are registered somewhere, point her in that direction.

Night_Sprite

I'd say something like, "We're saving for x, but I'm sure anything you want to give us would be lovely."

LesPaul

Well, since she's asking, and you didn't bring up the topic, I think it's ok to answer as Smokey and Night suggested.  It's not like you're soliciting cash.

tidetravel

I think if she asks, then it's fine to reply honestly - something along the lines of what Night said.

damaless

Yeah I don't think there is any problem with answering honestly if people are asking you about it.  It's only tacky if you jump to the conclusion that everyone is going to want to give you a gift and that you get to dictate what that gift is (money).

flyjawn

if you don't want to publicly post your response on your FB page, just send her a private message with a response suggested above.

Birdie1483

I agree with everything and I'm a big fan of private messages in situations like this. Answer privately in some form - online or in person.

JennaV26

She asked so you have every right to answer honestly. You might say that you would prefer monetary gifts but that you are registered at X and X for those guests who prefer to purchase gifts.

 I agree that it should probably be done in a private message.

kathrynhabibti

Agree with PPs, and I think smokey put it best.