So uh, it's morning over there

Brie2010

Haha Georgia.  He told me out of nowhere he wants to TTC sooner rather than later because with his current job, he has a lot more flexibility than he likely will in a few years.  So...yeah.  He needs to make up his mind, because a week ago he was saying he wants to wait 2-3 years, and now he's like, how about we start TTC on our first anniversary?  Crazy.

AmoroAgain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: So uh, it's morning over there : You... don't have... a dutch oven?! No comprende. I have three. I would send you one, but I expect shipping to Sweden is probably prohibative.
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>IIIII KNOOOOOW!!  They're prohibitively expensive over here.  He did buy me a really nice Alessi soup pot, so that's what I use for recipes like this, but yeah.  It's hard.  I registered for one, but yeah.  No one bought from our registry.  I'm pretty sure shipping would be sucktastic too. :D  But it's a nice thought!  You can pack one in your suitcase when you come to visit. lol

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danieliza1127

Brie - wasn't it  you that said your H does that with everything?  Like flip flops a lot?  That would be hard to deal with, what if you get all gung ho and then he changes his mind again?  How do you feel about it?

mandapanda78

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: So uh, it's morning over there : IIIII KNOOOOOW!!  They're prohibitively expensive over here.  He did buy me a really nice Alessi soup pot, so that's what I use for recipes like this, but yeah.  It's hard.  I registered for one, but yeah.  No one bought from our registry.  I'm pretty sure shipping would be sucktastic too. :D  But it's a nice thought!  You can pack one in your suitcase when you come to visit. lol
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

<div>I do get free/no weight limit luggage on Delta with my status. How long are you going to be over there? We're trying to figure out where we want to go for our next year trip...</div><div>
</div><div>Posting and running, meeting!</div>

Brie2010

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[QUOTE]Brie - wasn't it  you that said your H does that with everything?  Like flip flops a lot?  That would be hard to deal with, what if you get all gung ho and then he changes his mind again?  How do you feel about it?
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

I don't know that he's a flip-flopper, I just think that before major decisions he needs to talk about the pros and cons exhaustively.  Like with the engagement, he talked about getting engaged a lot, and it was frustrating because I was like, "Well, okay, let's get engaged then."  After a few months of waffling and talking about it incessantly, he proposed and after he did it, he never once expressed any kinds of doubt about it. 

He just has this need to talk both sides of things out (like, why we should have a baby versus why we should wait) a lot before he makes a final decision.  So, I think he's in the phase where he's trying to decide whether he thinks if we should TTC or wait--I think he's scared, because, yeah, TTC is a big deal, and he really wants to make sure he's ready, which is fine with me.  It's just frustrating because one day he's like, "I think maybe we should" and then the next "Well, maybe we shouldn't."  He'll come to a final decision eventually and it will be fine.

scoetto

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: So uh, it's morning over there : <strong>You... don't have... a dutch oven?!</strong> No comprende. I have three. I would send you one, but I expect shipping to Sweden is probably prohibative.
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]

I get one at least once a week...

georgia_bride09

I wondered if i was about that, since he's been a waffler before. I would just tell him whatever y'all decide this time is what is going to be set in stone.

I'm the waffler in our relationship, but we have firmly decided to start in October as long as my job remains firm (I'm a federal contractor, so our contract always rolls over in Oct, and I want to be sure it's a go before we start trying).

Brie2010

Exciting, Georgia!

I guess waffler isn't the right word.  Once he makes a decision, he sticks to it, but he just has this exhaustive need to discuss pros and cons before coming to a decision.  Buying a TV with him was hilarious.

AmoroAgain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: So uh, it's morning over there : I do get free/no weight limit luggage on Delta with my status. How long are you going to be over there? We're trying to figure out where we want to go for our next year trip... Posting and running, meeting!
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]

<div>Dude, I was kidding about having you bring me one! lol.. BUT you're certainly welcome to come for a visit.  We're here pretty much indefinitely.  H has a permanent contract.</div>

AmoroAgain

Brie, my H is indecisive about stuff, but he mostly keeps it to himself, thankfully.  I can't stand that kind of thing.  The last time he tried to drag me into a car hunt, I went to three places where he said the same things and I just couldn't handle it.  I told him not to bother me until he's found a car he's sure he likes.  Then, he went and ordered it without me. lol

kikibaby

Mmm... waffles.

So Brie, do you think the talk last night was his final "I'm ready"?  Or do you think he's going to change his mind back again?  We were going to wait until January, but just decided to go off the BC and see what happens  

myother1

Good morning!

I'm being lazy this morning.  Trying to get together the motivation to do my mid-week, mid-length run.  I've already waited too late to run outside (oh, the humidity!), so it's to the gym for me.

Looking forward to Wednesday Night W(h)ine tonight.  During the school year, it's where I cook a big meal and drink wine and whine about my students.  During the summer, I gotta admit, it's way more wine than whine.

georgia_bride09

[QUOTE]Exciting, Georgia! I guess waffler isn't the right word.  Once he makes a decision, he sticks to it, but he just has this exhaustive need to discuss pros and cons before coming to a decision.  Buying a TV with him was hilarious.
Posted by Brie2010[/QUOTE]

I understand where he's coming from. My H is very impulsive, so I feel like I HAVE to be the one to at least think through all the pros and cons. I've said before that he's wanted a baby since day one, so of course I'm the one that has to be the realistic one and of course, I'm the one who will most likely be up for 3am feedings, so really it's up to me to make him see that it's not all fun and games.

But I would definitely make him decide one way or the other, so that you can start prepping (body, mind, etc). For instance, I just read the other day that most prenatals don't have enough folic acid, so a lot of the TTC bump girls take a prenatal, extra folic acid, and a DHA pill. OMG. So you'd want to get started with that if necessary. I figure I'm going to start that once I start my 2nd to last pill pack so it'll all have two months to sink in. We're not waiting three months after I come off the pill, so I  at least want to be all vitamined up. /tangent

Brie2010

kiki, that's exciting!

Last night was definitely not his final decision.  He worded it as basically, "I'm thinking about the idea that it might actually be better to start sooner rather than later for x, y, and z reasons."  He gets a pretty huge raise in September, and will find out about another year-long position here in October, so I'm guessing we'll make more decisions at the end of this year/early next. 

kikibaby

Probably a good idea to wait on those things, Brie.  The raise would really help!

Georgia- I have been lurking on TB, mostly on the TTGP board and it makes me dizzy.  All the vitamins, etc.  I know it's all imporant, but I find it totally overwhelming.  I'm just taking folic acid for now. 

Brie2010

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[QUOTE]I understand where he's coming from. My H is very impulsive, so I feel like I HAVE to be the one to at least think through all the pros and cons. I've said before that he's wanted a baby since day one, so of course I'm the one that has to be the realistic one and of course, I'm the one who will most likely be up for 3am feedings, so really it's up to me to make him see that it's not all fun and games. But I would definitely make him decide one way or the other, so that you can start prepping (body, mind, etc). For instance, I just read the other day that most prenatals don't have enough folic acid, so a lot of the TTC bump girls take a prenatal, extra folic acid, and a DHA pill. OMG. So you'd want to get started with that if necessary. I figure I'm going to start that once I start my 2nd to last pill pack so it'll all have two months to sink in. We're not waiting three months after I come off the pill, so I  at least want to be all vitamined up. /tangent
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

We ditched the pill a week ago because it was seriously messing me up after 10 years on it uneventfully.  I just started charting, which is really interesting.  We'll see how it goes!

Our main concern is money.  We just have an assload of student loan debt that's so so so scary, but...if we wait until that's gone, I'll be menopausal.   So, we're always going to have that to deal with, regardless of when we TTC, which is scary to me. 

I'm also terrified of infertility.  I wish there was some way to know we could get pregnant right away or whether it would take awhile, but...yeah.  Not possible.

georgia_bride09

Kiki, I know. All the charting, etc... we're just doing the no pill method like you. I did order TCoYF, and may draw some things from that, but at the moment I just plan to take a prenatal and hope for the best. I guess if nothing happens, then I might move into that other territory.

georgia_bride09

Ditto on both counts, Brie. I have some loan debt, and they keep effing deferring it while I'm in two measly junior college classes at a time, but it's manageable. I worry more about infertility; my H's parents tried for ten years before they adopted his brother, and as soon as the ink was dry, they founf out they were pregnant with H. So I think I'll just cross that bridge when I get there. I've had several family members mistakenly get pregnant, so I'm holding out hope that it'll happen naturally. Like I said yesterday in one of the threads, I couldn't do IVF, so we'd adopt if we had to.

Well, this good morning thread has certainly taken a turn, hasn't it?

kikibaby

I am reading "What to Expect Before You're Expecting", which has been interesting.  I figure we'll give it until about the end of the year without worrying about charting and what not, and if it hasn't happened by then- I'll try charting.  Maybe if I get bored, I'll try it earlier

Brie2010

Haha, yeah, sorry to turn this thread into babies, BC, and vitamin talk.

kikibaby

BABIES!  hehe

georgia_bride09

Babies, babies, babies.

On another note, I'll be having a gtg with sarabellam and tide on Saturday. We're hanging out in Atlanta.

waltzingmatilda13

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[QUOTE]I am reading "What to Expect Before You're Expecting", which has been interesting.  I figure we'll give it until about the end of the year without worrying about charting and what not, and if it hasn't happened by then- I'll try charting.  Maybe if I get bored, I'll try it earlier ;)
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

H and I read this book about a month ago. For me it brought up more questions than gave me answers. I'm waiting to talk to my doc at my annual in September to make sure everything is a-okay. (I've had abnormal test results before and had to have cells removed, so we just want to check again first)

myother1

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[QUOTE]Babies, babies, babies. On another note, I'll be having a gtg with sarabellam and tide on Saturday. We're hanging out in Atlanta.
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]


Hopefully inside!  It's so freakin' hot here - this is when I start looking forward to fall. 

georgia_bride09

Yeah, we're planning to stay indoors.

mandapanda78

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: So uh, it's morning over there : Dude, I was kidding about having you bring me one! lol.. BUT you're certainly welcome to come for a visit.  We're here pretty much indefinitely.  H has a permanent contract.
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

<div>Ok, here's the part where I bring this whole thread full circle: Yeah, I'm not sure even with no weight restriction H would let me bring a Dutch Oven. However, I'm seriously going to put Sweden on the list for next year's excursion. We're looking for somewhere we've both never been and somewhere that I can get excellent medical care in case of any emergencies, because I'll hopefully be <strong>pregnant</strong>. </div><div>
</div><div>See what I did there? From Dutch ovens to travel to babies. </div><div>
</div><div>And GB I am ever so jealous of your GTG. </div>

kikibaby

Manda, come to Colorado, we have great health care! 

mandapanda78

Thanks kiki, but the whole point of our annual excursion is to get out of the country! Although that is the third invitation I've received for Colorado in the last few weeks.

parker624

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: So uh, it's morning over there : I don't know that he's a flip-flopper, I just think that before major decisions he needs to talk about the pros and cons exhaustively.  Like with the engagement, he talked about getting engaged a lot, and it was frustrating because I was like, "Well, okay, let's get engaged then."  After a few months of waffling and talking about it incessantly, he proposed and after he did it, he never once expressed any kinds of doubt about it.  He just has this need to talk both sides of things out (like, why we should have a baby versus why we should wait) a lot before he makes a final decision.  So, I think he's in the phase where he's trying to decide whether he thinks if we should TTC or wait--I think he's scared, because, yeah, TTC is a big deal, and he really wants to make sure he's ready, which is fine with me.  It's just frustrating because one day he's like, "I think maybe we should" and then the next "Well, maybe we shouldn't."  He'll come to a final decision eventually and it will be fine.
Posted by Brie2010[/QUOTE]

Brie, what do <em>you</em> want to do about TTC?

Morning (almost afternoon) I slept in this morning.  I finally feel recovered after my bachelorette on Saturday.  Guess my body is getting so old.