so uh, what do you think of this?

laladypoet

http://www.youtube.com/user/Courtneylivingwell#p/u/13/OyJywUitdBA

arbolita

I can't watch at the moment because I left my headphones at home today.  Summary?

soontobehimes

I can't even finish it. How about the husband respect the wife and keep those thoughts to himself.

laladypoet

it's from this blog:
http://womenlivingwell-courtney.blogspot.com/

one of her "readers" told her that her husband wants her to lose weight, and she's wondering if she should "submit" to her husband and do it. of course, the girl in the video says yes, do what you gotta do to make your man happy.

J&K10910

I can't get past the "submit to your husband" part. 

But, wow.  Really?  It's so nice that she has his permission to use self tanner, as well.

missy68

Umm, if my husband told me to lose weight, I'd tell him to look in the mirror. I'd never tell him he needed to lose it, but I'd encourage any efforts he made to do so.

Now, if he told me I needed to get in better heart-healthy shape, I'd be mad, but I'd know he was right. He may be bigger than me, but the man's already logged over 400 miles on his bike this year and is aiming for 1,000 by mid July.

cengle

*barf*

Her how-to video on how to fold your sheets was simply intriguing.

eastunder1

I think its important to keep up your physical appearance for your spouse just in general.   If a person has gained a significant chunk of weight since entering the marriage/relationship, I think the other half is entitled to want them to lose it.  I think you should want to do whats necessary to remain sexually attractive to your spouse, and vise versa.

But that being said, I can't get behind this "submitting" crap at all.   They have me on the general idea, but not the wording and religious undertones. 

temerityjane

I think... that that would NOT go over well in my house. At all.

However... eh. I also respect the fact that some women choose to live their lives like that, you know? I have a really hard time taking personal offense to it, because she's obviously speaking towards people like herself who choose to lead that kind of life. I don't feel like it's an invalid choice, but certainly not one I would make - at least not to that extent.

laladypoet

I think its important to keep up your pyhsical appearnce for your spouse just in general.   If a person has gained a significant chunk of weight since entering the marriage/relationship, I think the other half is entiteld to want them to lose it.  I think you should want to do whats necessary to remain sexually attractive to your spouse. 

my question was, ok, what if she's already a stick or something? how would this broad even know? what if your husband wanted you to gain a bunch of weight or get fake jugs or something? just saying that you should do what's necessary to make him happy with your appearance is dangerous.

ohwhynot

What TJ said.  She seems happy enough, and her followers probably feel the same way. 

On the other hand, she kind of tripped up over the "well, what if he's  saying it in a non-loving way?  What if he's being kind of a jerk about it?  He's not holding up his end of the bargain" part of the question. 

laladypoet

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_uh-think-of-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bb06e493-2c9c-4240-8145-7f032932648cPost:708792ae-597f-4bdf-822d-061268006224">Re: so uh, what do you think of this?</a>:
[QUOTE]I think... that that would NOT go over well in my house. At all. However... eh. I also respect the fact that some women choose to live their lives like that, you know? I have a really hard time taking personal offense to it, because she's obviously speaking towards people like herself who choose to lead that kind of life. I don't feel like it's an invalid choice, but certainly not one I would make - at least not to that extent.
Posted by temerityjane[/QUOTE]

I think it's interesting, but I'm easily fascinated.

temerityjane

Honestly, I find it somewhat alluring. No, I don't want my dude to have complete control over my life, but can you imagine the freedom of never having to make a decision or take responsibility for the outcome of any of those decisions? That small, teeny portion of that kind of life does, at times, seem like a vacation.

cengle

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_uh-think-of-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bb06e493-2c9c-4240-8145-7f032932648cPost:a76d290a-249e-48a7-96ed-a621fdc58795">Re: so uh, what do you think of this?</a>:
[QUOTE]Honestly, I find it somewhat alluring. No, I don't want my dude to have complete control over my life, but can you imagine the freedom of never having to make a decision or take responsibility for the outcome of any of those decisions? That small, teeny portion of that kind of life does, at times, seem like a vacation.
Posted by temerityjane[/QUOTE]

Eh, I think I would get bored.  I'm way too opinionated for that.  Some small decisions where I didn't really care about the outcome (where should we have dinner, what movie should we see, etc.) I don't mind giving up control over, but over important matters, I think my views matter too.  Too each their own, but I know there is no way I would ever be able to live like this.  But, hey, if they're truly happy, then good for them, I guess. 

laladypoet

I don't know. I feel like that chick is screaming inside. I can see it shooting out her eyes.

laladypoet

she reminds me of my MIL.
my MIL goes apeshit on anyone besides her family to kinda get her aggression out. it's weird.

I don't care what other people do, and if it works for them, fine. but I'm gonna judge it. like I judge attachment parenting, even though some families are totally happy with it.

temerityjane

Oh, I'm not saying I could live that life, or even live it very long. Sometimes, though... sometimes...

missy68

I'm not big on being told what to do, so it wouldn't go over with me. If J wanted to work on his (which he's always doing), then I try to be supportive and helpful, and not cross the line into nagging (that doesn't always happen - that line gets blurred).
I've lost a ton of weight, so I now need to get in shape and stay healthy. Sometimes he's had to force me outside, but it's for my own good, and I know it. He's never mean about it.
But if he demanded I get a boob job or something just because he liked something he saw? Nuh uh. There's never been any false advertising about me, since we started dating.

aragx6

The whole concept just leaves me feeling nauseated -- and I don't just think it's the Jimmy John's I had for lunch.

This thing we're doing -- it's a partnership. Hell a partnership is hard enough for me -- full on submission? I don't think iI was raised to a situation like that. I certainly know some women who were though.

Krysti21

Did anybody see her video where she says that she never says no when her husband wants sex? She says that the only reason God gives that is okay for depriving her husband of sex is if she's in prayer. Other than that, she believes that it's not okay to say no. She says that she made that decision after they had an argument about how often they have sex.

zippityb

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