Inviting Guests who you know cannot come to the wedding

cb095427 · September 2010

My fiance's grandfather's sister lives in California (our wedding is in Philadelphia) and we would like to invite her as we are also inviting my fiance's grandfather's brother. Is there a way we can invite her, but let her know we are not just inviting her and looking for a gift since she most likely will not be able to make the trip?

aMrsin09 · September 2010

I would just invite her as youwould any other guest. I invited my family knowing they wouldn't be able to make it, but it seemed wrong for G'ma to not get an invite to our wedding.
Let her decide if she can come or not.

hccpsu · September 2010

Agree with PP. I knew my 92-year old godfather wasn't going to be able to make it, along with some other OOT relatives and guests, but I still sent the invitations.

cb095427 · September 2010

Thanks for the responses! I had read in a magazine or somewhere that you should include a note that says you know they won't be able to make it, but that you wanted to share your news with them. I guess we will just invite her- seems easier!

Thanks again!

SparrowSong · September 2010

I just invite anyway. Who knows, maybe something will happen and their plans will change, they'll win the lottery, they'll change their mind... whatever the situation may be.

I'd just enclose a little handwritten note, "We know you probably won't be able to make it because of xyz but we just wanted to know that we will miss you and look foward to seeing you some other time!"