Invite Wording for Hosts? HELP!

lopezeli

I am trying to figure out how to word the invitations. My parents are paying the majority of the wedding. Me and my fiance are paying for some things, and his parents paid for the flowers and the rehearsal dinner. How should I word this on the invitation? Together with their parents? Or just my parents?

jessicabessica

If together with their parents is ok with all involved, that sounds like it would work well here.  I would check with the parents before doing that, in case they want their actual names on the invitation.  

If you want to use names, you could use:

[Bride's Parents] 

request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of

[bride]

to 

[groom]

son of [groom's parents]

Jen4948

Who's contributing, and how much, isn't relevant, because 1) it's none of the guests' business and 2) paying doesn't equal hosting.

Who is hosting is more a question of "who are the point persons of the wedding, whom the guests should send their responses to and contact with any questions or comments?"

The traditional wording is as Jessicabessica indicated, or you can use "Together with their parents" and just yours and your fiance's.

bethanys86

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invite-wording-for-hosts-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bf1e8d69-79a1-4231-80e2-051e0a19b2e4Post:5c4df10b-27c5-4215-9c28-cd03a6d69efa">Re: Invite Wording for Hosts? HELP!</a>:
[QUOTE] If you want to use names, you could use: [Bride's Parents]  request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of [bride] to  [groom] son of [groom's parents]
Posted by jessicabessica[/QUOTE]

<div>This is exactly what we did. My mom is technically acting as hostess, but his parents have been extremely supportive, and I wanted to honor both of our parents on the invitation. I consulted both sets of parents before printing, and they were both fine with it. I know that I didn't have to get their approval (since we are actually footing the majority of the bill) but it seemed like the appropriate thing to do. I wouldn't want anyone to be upset over the invites, so why not try to please everyone (assuming one doesn't have a complicated lengthly family situation that doesn't flow with the invitation wording...)?</div>

Jen4948

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invite-wording-for-hosts-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bf1e8d69-79a1-4231-80e2-051e0a19b2e4Post:5cd6eba1-83fd-458d-8aa0-6923d805edff">Re: Invite Wording for Hosts? HELP!</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm old-fashioned.  I prefer "the honour of your presence", not "the pleasure of your company" on wedding invitations. "The pleasure of your company" is for parties.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

Actually,  traditional etiquette doesn't make that distinction.  The phrasing "the honour of your presence" is to be used if the ceremony is a religious one at a house of worship because only the Deity, or clergy as representatives, are allowed to "host" in the Deity's house (the house of worship), and "the presence of your company" is to be used for all other ceremonies, not just parties.