Am I being an a-hole?

ZRex

A friend has been really irritating about whether or not she is bringing a guest.  I told her I needed a final answer by this morning, so she called and said guest would not attend.  I gave my numbers to the venue, and then friend called to tell me the guest wanted to attend.  I told her it was too late.  Friend called me again to try and bring guest.

I am allowed to increase my guest count until the day before the wedding, but I kinda just don't feel like it because friend has been so annoying.  WWYD?

carrieoz_76

Yea, with this short of notice, it's reasonable to draw a line in the sand.  I vote "not an a-hole"

sapphirebaby926

I'd say no you aren't being an a-hole because you gave her more than enough time to find out if her guest would be attending or not.

But depending on how close I was to said friend and if I could change numbers last minute I would. I'm kind of a pushover though so keep that in mind when reading this.

scurtis07

I agree with PPs, keep the guest not invited, because who is to say you add the guest and then they don't end up coming? I would rather have them show up without a meal I think, then pay for them and then not have them show up!!

ZRex

It's getting on my nerves that she keeps following up on it.  I have tried and tried to explain to her all of the things I need to get done before the wedding, and she just doesn't seem to get it.  BAH.  Just going to stop answering my phone and email.  I just have very little of myself to give right now.

kayakrunhike

Um, with two days to go?  Not an a-hole.  I can't believe you gave her that much time, to be honest. 

squirrly

I'd be worried she would bring the guest anyway, honestly.  I'd add him & let her know.  And THEN stop talking to her till after the honeymoon.

fangsiting

Just let her bring the guest.  If you're allowed to add up until the day before, just add it & be done with it. 

tenofcups4me

You can still add the guest and you choose not to because you don't feel like it? Yeah, a-hole. Let her add the guest.

Knittibell

Nope, I'm with you on this one... seems to me like she was desperately finding someone to attend with her.. and finally managed it. Providing she knows other people at the wedding, I'd stick to your guns and say no. If she does not know anyone then I'd cave and let her bring him... but I'd still be irritated

wadingmoose

I'm a pushover, but it would depend on the friend.  I have friends that I wouldn't think twice and I'd let them bring the guest.

Other friends, I would draw the line in the sand and say, "too late."

You did say this morning though and it is still this mroning (at least here on my side of the planet.  I just finished my first cup of coffee and am contemplating a second)

ZRex

Thanks for all the advice, peeps.  I think I'm going to stick to my guns on the guest because my friend knows at least 20% of the attendees, and I already invited her parents, who are both coming.

Now to fend off FMIL who keeps insisting that she is willing to help me with my DIY projects and who-- despite my repeated insistence that I do not need help-- is probably driving to my place as we speak!

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Frankly, I'm lazy and hate making phone calls, so I wouldn't want to call the venue back. I'd tell her no. I assume she's had about 2 months to work this out so far.

Lisa8888

I would let her bring the guest. You are able to increase the head count. She is suppose to be your friend and you are standing on some principle.