Might have made a mistake...

porsha810

I had a few guests on my list that I was contemplating on inviting & accidentally sent them save the dates, but we don't talk, nor have we in a long time.  We are acquaintances & not friends, so I wouldn't feel as if I'm burning a bridge as we don't speak now. 

Can I not invite them to the wedding?

To clarify I printed out the labels wrong & that's how they got a save the date as well!!

crfische

If you sent a save the date, you must invite.

How do you ACCIDENTALLY send a STD?

Mrs.B6302007

See the FAQ link below

laurenclaire1386

Anyone who got save the dates gets an invitation, unless you want to look like an asshole. If you don't talk any more, chances are, they won't come anyway.

JessAndTrav

I'm also unsure as to how this happened, but if you honestly don't care about them judging you for making an etiquette faux pas, then just don't send them one, I suppose.

smokeybailey

Is that like accidentally GETTING an STD?  Protect yourself from spreading STD's to others.

polichik

I'm confused about how you accidentally sent them save-the-dates. If by accidentally, you mean that somebody else was in charge of sending them and sent them to people who weren't on your guest list, it would be prudent to call them immediately, explain the mistake, and apologize profusely.

But, if you say "accidentally" but mean that you sent them intentionally but are now changing your mind, uninviting them (which is what it is, since a save-the-date is as good as an invite) would be incredibly rude and would probably burn bridges, even if it doesn't necessarily seem like it now.

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]I had a few guests on my list that I was contemplating on inviting & accidentally sent them save the dates, but we don't talk, nor have we in a long time.  We are acquaintances & not friends, so I wouldn't feel as if I'm burning a bridge as we don't speak now.  Can I not invite them to the wedding? To clarify I printed out the labels wrong & that's how they got a save the date as well!!
Posted by porsha810[/QUOTE]

porsha810

Just in case you didn't see...I printed out the wrong labels for the save the dates & they were on there.

shellydiane820

Proof reading is your friend.

kikibaby

How did you not notice when you were sticking labels on?  Did you send them to like 500 people? 

porsha810

Thanks...I appreciate the link!  Mistakes = consequences & I guess I have mine.

Mrs.B6302007

Ditto kiki.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]Is that like accidentally GETTING an STD?  Protect yourself from spreading STD's to others.
Posted by smokeybailey[/QUOTE]

Yet, I feel that getting THAT kind of STD is easier than getting the mailed kind of STD. KWIM?

I must have double checked mine 3-4 times before mailing them. And they were just postcards.

crfische

The downfall of labels.

Again, your choice, your mistake, now you must invite.

Perhaps you should have been more mindful when you were putting the labels on the Save the Dates.

Although, it's still odd that you don't even like these people, yet you have them on an address label list...er something.

smokeybailey

Like I said, protect yourself:

Check
Doublecheck
Check again

You cannot uninvite.  I am also curious as to the number of people on your list.

Mrs.B6302007

Ditto fishy.
I still don't understand how. I mean I know how but I don't see how the overlooking happened.

Unless....some poor BM or MOH was held captive and told "Slap these labels on the STDs and do it happily!"  (OP, I'm just kidding.  The regs will get my humor on that)

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]Like I said, protect yourself:
Posted by smokeybailey[/QUOTE]


This is the funniest comment for an STD thread.

porsha810

I know it was my mistake just getting some 3rd party opinions...thank you.  I will go ahead with the invites, but it was an honest mistake.  Not everyone checks them 3 or 4 times & I obvioiusly didn't but WILL from now on.  Lesson Learned. 

kikibaby

Why is it so hard to answer a question?  I'm sure I won't get an answer to that, though, because it is also a question.

porsha810

Goodness...Kiki... I have 200 guests I was sending to...does that help?  Even though it doesn't seem like alot it was for me.

crfische

You really only needed to check it once....

kristid2

To make you feel better, similar thing happened to me. Fiance was in charge of dopping off at the post office, and was unsure which were the B list, so he mailed them all. I now have to invite more people than I was financially prepared for. Hoping some won't be able to make it...... 

kikibaby

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[QUOTE]To make you feel better, similar thing happened to me. Fiance was in charge of dopping off at the post office, and was unsure which were the B list, so he mailed them all. I now have to invite more people than I was financially prepared for. Hoping some won't be able to make it...... 
Posted by kristid2[/QUOTE]

You shouldn't have had a B list in the first place.  Problem avoided.

porsha810

Thx Kristid...I'm glad there is someone else who  made a mistake.  I can deal though...not a big ish just trying to see what others thought & I got it now.

polichik

Were any guests accidentally left off the list? You might want to check, just in case, unless you have already! That wouldn't be fun.

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]To make you feel better, similar thing happened to me. Fiance was in charge of dopping off at the post office, and was unsure which were the B list, so he mailed them all. I now have to invite more people than I was financially prepared for. Hoping some won't be able to make it...... 
Posted by kristid2[/QUOTE]


Ouch.

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]You really only needed to check it once....
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

Well, even Santa checks his list twice.

porsha810

I did check for the left off ones & that's when I realized it was most of my family & wedding party that got left off & that's how I figured it all out.  Needless to say it was a BIG mess but it can be handled & fixed!! lol  Like I said Lesson Learned!

crfische

Um, Santa has like 23423429348029384029348029348 people on his guest list.

Mrs.B6302007

As long as I'm there...