XP: Proper addressing of invitations

nordke

I've tried looking for the answer to this on the internet to no avail. Anyone have an idea as to how to address an invitation for a husband and wife, where the wife is a Dr? We're addressing our invites as Mr. and Mrs. Jon Smith, but with this one, not sure if that format fits since it would look like Mr. and Dr. Jon Smith, seeming like it's a man who is the Dr., or maybe it's just me that thinks it looks odd. Any ideas?

bam89

If it was me I would just continue to use Mr. and Mrs.  It keeps it simple and most people will not gett offended by being adress that way.  

jess9802

Doctor Jane Smith and Mr. John Smith

aleighk1

Mr. and Mrs. Fitzwilliam Darcy 
or 
Dr. Elizabeth Darcy and Mr. Fitzwilliam Darcy

http://www.erasofelegance.com/etiquette/invitation.html

mparwulski

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_xp-proper-addressing-of-invitations?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c27cc14b-3f3c-441e-82d7-32b47f3ace0fPost:fd6643ea-806c-4c0d-b3d9-60f42b6e9c45">Re: XP: Proper addressing of invitations</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: XP: Proper addressing of invitations : I disagree.  <strong>People work very hard to obtain the title of 'Dr,' and I think it should be acknowledged.
</strong>Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]

You would address people by their proper titles.  Invitations should be formal.  The outside envelope would read:

Doctor Mary Smith
and Mr. David Smith

<a href="http://www.crane.com/etiquette/wedding/marriedcouples?RPL">http://www.crane.com/etiquette/wedding/marriedcouples?RPL</a>

nordke

Thanks for the suggestions. FI just commented though that apparently this guest does not use her "Dr." title, she will put Ph.D at the end of her name, but has never been formally addressed as Dr. Does this change it, and maybe just stick with Mr. and Mrs. after all? I do agree though that people work hard for this title, so I certainly don't want to offend anyone, especially this person. Thanks ladies!

jess9802

If she's a Ph.D and not an MD, the invite should be addressed to Mr. and Mrs. John Smith. The longstanding convention has been that Doctor is used socially only for medical doctors, not those with Ph.Ds or other doctoral degrees.