Wishing Well Wording

lmm3491

We're having the wedding in my home town in PA but will be living in Winnipeg Canada afterwards. So to save on shipping costs and the hassle of moving extra things above and beyond my own possessions, we thought to do a Wishing Well. My question is how do I word this on either the invitation or wedding website? How do I tell people that we'd prefer money over the hassle of shipping that pretty and thoughtful wedding gift they wanted to get us?

I'd greatly appreciate any help :-)

chrmun

No.

StephBeanWed61502

You can't ask for money.  It's rude.

Megbo2012

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Posted by chrmun[/QUOTE]

<div>This 100% </div>

jessicabessica

As it turns out, a lot of people don't need a lot of new stuff, move after their weddings, or get married far away from where they live.  It is never polite to ask people for their money, no matter how you word it.  

NOLAbridealmost

There is a subtle distinction but observe:

Option 1: Don't register.  Tell close relatives (like your parents) that you're saving up for X, and allow word of mouth/common sense to prevail.  Guests will know you want cash. Most will give cash.  Get a pretty birdcage, box, mailbox, or whatever and put it near the guest book at the reception with no signage or anything. This is called a card box.  This is 100% etiquette appropriate and you'll get plenty of cash.

Option 2: Announcing that you want cash on the invitation or wedding website, placing the exact same birdcage, box, mailbox, or whatever at the wedding, still probably getting the same amount of cash, but also looking really rude in the process.  

Go with option 1. 

ggirl2001

I moved unexpectedly in the midst of wedding planning, but I was planning to move after wedding anyway. I still had a small registry and small shower. At my wedding, I got all cash gifts except for one. Most people can figure it out. 

ETA: I'm guessing since you want cash for your wedding that you are not having a shower right? Because if you are going to have a shower, then you need to have a registry. 

MNVegas

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[QUOTE]We're having the wedding in my home town in PA but will be living in Winnipeg Canada afterwards. So to save on shipping costs and the hassle of moving extra things above and beyond my own possessions, we thought to do a Wishing Well. <strong>My question is how do I word this on either the invitation or wedding website?</strong> How do I tell people that we'd prefer money over the hassle of shipping that pretty and thoughtful wedding gift they wanted to get us? I'd greatly appreciate any help :-)
Posted by lmm3491[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>You don't word it. Asking for cash is inappropriate and people already know cash is a great gift. They don't need you to tell them.</div><div>
</div><div>Either don't register or do a small registry for people who like to buy physical gifts. Others will get the hint that cash is prefered and will give you a card with check/cash in it, so there is no need for a wishing well.

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Summer2011Bride

Don't do this. Outright asking for money is rude. Either have a small registry (perhaps with easily moveable items) or no registry. People will take the hint, esp. if they know you're moving.

SparrowSong

If you feel like you have to registery, make sure you are clear about the delivery address on your wedding webpage. Provide a good address at the store/s you register with, as well. 

But otherwise, don't register at all, and just bank on the common sense of your friends and fam, who we can assume know the plan for the future?  DEMANDING cash is rude, no matter what spin and justification you try to paint on it. 

No matter what you WILL receive some gifts, so just plan now that there will be some shipping in the future. Nothing you try will yield 100% your wish. Be grateful and graceful about anything you do receive, no matter how inconvenient you think their generosity is.