Deceased Guests Husband

Emily260

How do I address an envelope for a guest who just recently lost her husband of 40 years. I want her to know she can bring a guest but I don't want the invite to come off as cold or that he's already been forgotten.

PharmacyBride

I handled all my widows invitations on a case-by-case basis.  I didn't base the decision on when the spouse died, but on the person receiving the invitation.  I am inviting 2 of the 3 with "guests"

My advice is to call her and let her know that she is allowed to bring a "friend" if she would like company.  She will probably love the phone call anyways.

LesPaul

"Mrs. Jane Smith and guest" would be fine, I think.  Or, if your relationship is close enough, just address it to "Mrs. Jane Smith" and then tell her that she is welcome to bring a guest if she would like to.

MattsPenguin

If they are of the generation of my grandparents, I always ALWAYS address things:

Mrs. Grandpa (i.e. Mrs. John Smith)

That is what she prefers.

Regarding the guest, how about "Mrs. John Smith and Guest".

mica178

Mrs. John Smith would technically be the correct address, but... if this is fresh, you might want to consult with someone who knows her well to find out what is her preference.  I have a handful of widows who are invited to my wedding, and some of them want Mrs. John Smith, and others want to go by Mrs. Jane Smith.

october010bride

My fiance's aunt just lost her husband of 35 years 3 months ago. She stated that she did not want to be a MRS. anymore because it would hurt too much, so she is now going by MS.

If possible, I'd talk to someone she is close with who knows her preference.

Knittibell

Say deceased H's name was John Smith

Mrs. John Smith

and then on inner envelope

Jane Smith and Guest

When my husband was killed I got some invites sent addressed this way and it was great, I was really touched.  Alternatively, just keep the Mrs. ie: Mrs. Jane Smith.

She's still his wife, at least I guarantee you she still feels she is his wife.

I'm still Mrs. Anne "Smith" and will be until I marry my fi and take his last name as well.