Appropriate gift for destination wedding?

weddingbells2010

Hi ladies,

What is an appropriate dollar amount for a gift at a destination wedding?  In the NY metro area where I'm from, a cash gift is usually standard, and the gift is typically enough to cover the cost of your plates at the reception.  I know that you're not usually expected to give as much on a destination wedding because of travel costs, but what is a reasonable figure, in your opinions?  We will be spending about $2500 to go to the wedding (and we're not in the bridal party).

Thanks!

tidetravel

You should give whatever you feel comfortable giving based on your relationship with the couple and what you can afford, regardless of where the wedding is being held.

kellyjellybelly

We had a DW, and I'm pretty sure people gave us the same 'typical' gift amount that they give for non-DW.  Give what you are comfortable with, whether that be a card with a heartfelt message or a cash gift.

tenofcups4me

I would give significantly less for a destination wedding that required that much money just to attend. I'm not sure what the going rate is in NY now (in my crowd, it was about $200 when I lived there, but I've been gone for 7 years now), but I'd be inclined to give around $100 -- a number that I consider "acceptable" but less than what I would give if the wedding was in NY.

kaesha

I had a DW and was thrilled that people brought cards, let alone gifts. Give what you're comfortable with. I promise, your presence is probably appreciated more than anything else.

bellebride116

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_appropriate-gift-destination-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c3e64304-f100-42cb-bf50-756cd6420e5dPost:331e7a52-8d74-4ef9-9bf8-ef7c8da2ff5d">Re: Appropriate gift for destination wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]We had a DW, and I'm pretty sure people gave us the same 'typical' gift amount that they give for non-DW.  Give what you are comfortable with, whether that be a card with a heartfelt message or a cash gift.
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</div><div>Same for us. Even though we had a DW, we still got the normal amounts we would have if we had a local wedding. Def. give what you feel comfortable with. 

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lharri12

We're having a DW and asked all of our guests to NOT give us wedding gifts, although I'm sure a few of them will insist on doing so anyway.  If you're spending that much money to attend, don't feel pressured to fork over an expensive gift!

squirrly

Give what you're comfortable giving. 

soontobeschooley

Give what you can afford.  But since you are spending so much, the bride and groom will understand if it is less than you normally would.

misslol

we're having a destination wedding and had in our invite package "no gifts please - your presence is present enough".  

that being said, give what you feel comfortable giving.  If I were the couple I would not expect a gift, but it is always a nice gesture.