I get that it's early (KPS related)

crfische

...but can someone explain to me the connection between IBS and leaving your husband?

danieliza1127

I took it to mean being married to an abusive husband gives her IBS. 

FutureMrsTR

I was a wee bit confused by that one too.  I kind of assumed what Dani did, though.

crfische

Well, there's apparently a great deal of information that I didn't know about irritable bowels.

I thought maybe her husband had it and she was putting up with it because she's too scared to leave him.

You guys make way more sense.

If I drank coffee, I'd have some right now.

arbolita

IBS or sense?

lil_miss_latinist

::Lurker peeks head out::

As someone who has IBS, I can confirm that stressful situations make IBS a thousand times worse. If things are going great in my life, I won't have any symptoms for months. The minute things get stressful though, everything tenses up and I start having problems.

From my experience, people who have IBS react to stress with uncontrollable muscle spasms in the intestine, which can cause a variety of problems. The body then self corrects, and usually what happens is that the entire system flushes out in order to start over again. (Sorry if it's TMI-- but I thought I'd explain for anyone who doesn't know what IBS does.)

IBS sucks, but you learn to deal with it. If I was in the poster's position though, I'd probably do the same thing.

::Disappears back into the woodwork::

danieliza1127

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_its-early-kps-related?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c5afd396-9c5d-4688-aa54-a4f91d7ef969Post:805a15ca-1d9d-4d36-a1f8-51af6c2c5f0d">Re: I get that it's early (KPS related)</a>:
[QUOTE] If I was in the poster's position though, I'd probably do the same thing. ::Disappears back into the woodwork::
Posted by lil_miss_latinist[/QUOTE]


You would stay in an abusive marriage?  That's sad.

FutureMrsTR

Wouldn't the stress of an abusive marriage kind of equal the stress of leaving?  I have no idea, but you'd think that eventually, leaving would result in less stress and therefore less IBS symptoms.  I get that logic isn't always easily grasped in these situations, though.

crfische

Well, TR. That just made a great deal of sense.

kikibaby

It's ok, fishy, I had to ask about this last night.  (*whisper* over on... SB...)

lil_miss_latinist

In my situation, I've got a lot of other serious health problems that trigger when I have IBS symptoms. If I'm in the same situation for long enough, my symptoms subside, and I'm healthy again. Leaving would be alot more stressful for me, and overall I'd end up worse off. Having never been in an abusive relationship, though, I don't really know how things could go in that perspective; I'm probably being a little naive, but I guess that comes from the fact that I couldn't ever imagine my FI becoming abusive.

georgia_bride09

I also didn't get the desperate housewife one. Am I reading it wrong?

FutureMrsTR

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_its-early-kps-related?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c5afd396-9c5d-4688-aa54-a4f91d7ef969Post:c73dd53b-7882-442e-9b52-e0f761b80685">Re: I get that it's early (KPS related)</a>:
[QUOTE]Well, TR. That just made a great deal of sense.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

Make a note.  It probably won't happen again any time soon :)

crfische

The one where she loves him desparately, but fears she'll never be good enough?

georgia_bride09

Is that what it is? I thought it was "to" the wife. But I think you're right. We all know I'm slow on the uptake sometimes.

KatyRoseM

Leaving isn't just about the IBS, and having never been in that situation I can't know, but it seems that while from the outside leaving seems easier and like a good idea, a person who has been abused is often so scared and so on it doesn't happen or seem possible.  Anyway, I try not to judge people for not getting out of situations that I've never been in and don't know how hard it would be to get out of.  I do know the most dangerous time to be an abused women is right after you leave.