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Re: Honeymoon Registry

  • strlzfan11strlzfan11 member
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    edited August 2010

    FINALLY!  Someone who starts a thread about a honeymoon registry that has some common sense!

  • I am sooo not a fan of those.
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  • What's different from the honeymoon registry you posted than all the others? Or are you just giving an example?
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  • Nothing will ever beat the HM regisstry where they registered for Forever 21 and Baskin Robbins gift cards.  That was amazing.
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  • Yeah, but it's working for them seeing as a lot of their stuff is complete.  Plus, asking for a gift is asking for a gift.  What's the difference between asking for some new plates and a mixer or some gift cards for your honeymoon?  Maybe I just miss something here.  The idea of registries are still weird to me because no matter what / where they are someone always things something is stupid (why would they put a 400 dollar bed sheet set on there??! or insert what you think is dumb that someone has registered for)  Unless they put the link on the invite, meh, whatever.  
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  • Kit, the big problem that many knotties have with HRs is the fact that some of the registries charge fees so the guests aren't giving as much as they thought.  They also are extravagant and not necessary for daily married life whereas pots and pans are. There's also the association of HMs with sex - many knotties feel that B&Gs should pay for their own sex vacation. 
    I agree that even traditional registries are being "abused" by B&Gs putting ridiculous and extravagant items on them.
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  • They're also deceitful because in most cases the bride and groom just get a check for the amount (possibly less a fee), and may or may not use it on the items they "registered" for.  As a result, it's no different than asking for cash, which is always in poor taste.  A registry is supposed to be a convenient way of responding to the question "what would you like as a gift?" and "cash" is never the right answer to that question.
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  • The wording they use is obnoxious.
    "Instead of registering for material things,"
    It's a slap in the face for those who do register for material things, since the connotation of the phrase "material things" is so negative. And they worded it as such.

    The point of wedding gifts, like on a gift registry is to give the couple things they can use in their married life. A vacation isn't something they can use for their married life together. It's just a vacation.

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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_honeymoon-registry-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c6f175da-1af6-4a4a-91d3-1a6e18e28f1bPost:5d52af90-5d29-43be-a91d-b62d83b0601a">Re: Honeymoon Registry</a>:
    [QUOTE]Is this just an example registry on Honeyfund, or does it belong to an actual acquaintance of yours? Because if it's real, I think it's inappropriate to pass the link on to an international forum, when it contains the bride's full name, phone number, pictures of the couple, and their honeymoon itinerary.
    Posted by KentuckyKate[/QUOTE]

    Good call. I didn't go look at it at first but now that you've pointed it out, yeah...not cool.
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  • i dont like the ones that charge a fee or just give you a check but we used the one through the aruba tourism board and it actually gives you a voucher for the specific activity.  we lived together for 6 years and we have enough pots.  we also only included a few things that we thought were cool - not hotel rooms or anything like that.  we got a really positive response from our guests.  so i guess it depends which one you use.  it kinda bugs me when knotties put down the whole concept - not all of them are deceitful/misleading to your guests. 
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  • holy lord they got a lot of stuff paid for!!!

    Maybe I'll change my mind on HM registries and start one...

    or not.

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  • No, they got almost EVERYTHING paid for. Really, is that for real? And how much is the registry getting?
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_honeymoon-registry-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c6f175da-1af6-4a4a-91d3-1a6e18e28f1bPost:e155ab0f-508c-42bb-a6a8-6bb1a02085e8">Re: Honeymoon Registry</a>:
    [QUOTE]i dont like the ones that charge a fee or just give you a check but we used the one through the aruba tourism board and it actually gives you a voucher for the specific activity.  we lived together for 6 years and we have enough pots.  we also only included a few things that we thought were cool - not hotel rooms or anything like that.  we got a really positive response from our guests.  so i guess it depends which one you use.  it kinda bugs me when knotties put down the whole concept - not all of them are deceitful/misleading to your guests. 
    Posted by hugz415[/QUOTE]

    I always wonder when people say this... what would happen if you decided not to do that activity for whatever reason?  You didn't have time, just changed your mind, the weather didn't cooperate while you were there, or whatever.  Or, what if you had to cancel the honeymoon altogether for some reason?  What happens to those gifts the guests gave you - are they just completely wasted?
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  • I've NEVER heard of this honeymoon registry prior to becoming active on this site and my jaw still drops everytime someone talks about it.............It's just unreal!

    Although, she only needed $150 for Yankees tickets??? Those are gonna be some sh*tty seats!!!
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_honeymoon-registry-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c6f175da-1af6-4a4a-91d3-1a6e18e28f1bPost:aefdd1b4-48d2-4656-a8cd-b73ec51a54ac">Re: Honeymoon Registry</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Honeymoon Registry : I always wonder when people say this... what would happen if you decided not to do that activity for whatever reason?  You didn't have time, just changed your mind, the weather didn't cooperate while you were there, or whatever.  Or, what if you had to cancel the honeymoon altogether for some reason?  What happens to those gifts the guests gave you - are they just completely wasted?
    Posted by quotequeen[/QUOTE]

    The Aruba site gives you a year to use them from the date of your wedding.  So I guess there is some risk that if you cancelled and never went back you could lose the gift.  We also didn't go crazy and register for alot - we really only have 2 activities to do and they are all booked.  I trusted the site bc its from the country's own tourism board - they want people to have a good experience.  I also checked to make sure they were not charging extra for the gifts - it was actually a discount than if we had booked the activities directly with the companies.  
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