I'm having a fat day. Cheer me up please. (Very whiny)

tlv204

I actually had a decent day at school, but stayed late grading stuff, and decided to go shopping (just at Target, I'm cheap) afterwards for some new shirts. I almost started crying in the dressing room. Apparently I haven't gone shopping in a while. I've been working out for 2 months and have gained weight. Don't you dare tell me "Muscle weighs more than fat." Everyone keeps telling me that and it doesn't really make a difference even if it is true because I'm just plain flubbier. And larger. And blobier. And I don't get it. I mean I'm certainly not about to enter a marathon, but I went from eating chicken wing dip once a week and working out less than once a month to eating at least like a normal person and working out 4-5 times a week, and it just keeps getting worse.

I'm not on BC anymore and I'm only 24, so it's not like my metabolism changing can be the ONLY cause of this, but I'm just sad and chubby and not cute anymore and the worst part is that this is probably the best I'll look for the rest of my life. AND all I can think about is how I have all of the ingredients to make chicken wing dip and clearly eating toxic waste is a good solution to feeling overweight.

And you guys made me cry about my old dog being put to sleep (I read the I judge thread unfortunately).

Thanks for listening. Any funny pictures or jokes to cheer me up? Sorry to be debbie downer

crfische

crfische

Brie2010

I'm sorry you're having a bad day.  I'm restraining myself from going apeshit on FI/FILs over wedding shiit, so...you're not alone.

tlv204

Ha, thanks fishy

crfische

Dude it's not right to be gaining weight if you're working out and eating right...that seems strange.

There isn't a history of thyroid problems in your family?

crfische

Brie! What's up with the FIL's now!?

Nebb

When I went off BC last July and stopped working out regularly (though I still ate somewhat OK - just wasnt counting calories anymore), I somehow managed to gain over 30lbs in 7 months. No idea why, I am positive that somehow going off the pill and not dieting properly in the past caused my metabolism slowed down so much that i couldnt control my weight (again, I dont know how, but its the only explanation I could come up with). I started working out again and it took over 2 months for my weight to start moving or inches to start dropping off. It has been slow, because a year has passed and it doesnt seem like ive come that far.

That said (enough about me), have you been to the doctor to discuss your concerns and atleast get tested to see if its something hormonal causing it (your thyroid or something). Do you count your calories? Do you lift? Both of those helped me tremendously, so who knows.

Just keep doing what youre doing. That doesnt help you at all right now, but it will in the future. i hope you feel better.

tlv204

I'm sorry brie

Fish- not that I know of. And honestly I've only gained like 3 lbs in 2 months, but it just doesn't seem fair. And overall I just feel all blubby and rolly.

ggmae

I'm sorry, Tlv. Whenever I am feeling down/fat, I eat a piece of candy. True story. Probably not the best idea, but it's instant gratification!


This picture always makes me laugh.

aMrsin09

Could the size increase be that youve gained muscle (bulk) from working out, but you haven't started losing the layer of fat yet, so everything is "thicker"?  Once the fat starts burning you'll get smaller.

missy68

If you're judging it by the way Target's clothes fit, don't. I have to buy about 2 sizes bigger than what I wear, and they are still don't always fit.

I'm sorry about your dog. I don't judge anyone about any guilt/grief over that. I'm still having an incredibly difficult time dealing with the death (by euthanasia) of my dog I'd had for 14 1/2 years. It takes as long as it takes.

Hugs sent your way.

PsyDet 2155

Hat I'm going to get for my niece


Gil surrounded by a few of his toys


His favorite is the orange cat.  We named him Cheeto and Gil carries him around everywhere...it's really cute.

I was on Depo for awhile and when I got off of it, I gained weight.  It has taken me over a year to get all of the hormones out of my body.  I don't weigh myself so I'm not sure but my clothes are definitely fit better and I haven't been doing anything different.  Be consistent with eating cleaner but don't deprive yourself.  Switching up your exercise routine may also be beneficial (such as combining weight training and cardio). You have a husband who loves you very much and you're awesome because we share the same favorite drink

tlv204

I don't think there's anything really wrong, at least I hope not, it's just frustrating because I used to always be pretty thin. Then in college I started dating H, started BC, and moved off campus all within 2 months, and gained some weight. From there my weight has always fluctuated depending on my diet and activity level, but honestly even when I gained a lot of weight all I did was get depressed in the spring and then start a mediocre workout regimen and drank a little less, and most of the weight came off pretty easily. I was never super thin again, but I wasn't like this It's just not working the same this time. Did I hit a magic age where my body decided to hate me?

crfische

Nebb, you've done awesome! How much have you lost now!? You're doing awesome!

TLV, 3 pounds in 2 months you can get under control! YOUVE GOT THIS!! Keep at it, sister!

Brie2010

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[QUOTE]Brie! What's up with the FIL's now!?
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

FI mentioned in an e-mail that we'd sent out wedding invites.  FFIL gets all righteous and indignant and assholey about us not inviting some second cousins (which we discussed with them, but apparently they're friends now and we were supposed to psychically know this).  We are horrible people because the wife has cancer and blah blah blah.

Problem?  We literally don't have any extra invitations since FMIL added on 3 extra couples awhile back.  So FI's solution?  Ask his co-worker guy friend to give him back the invitation he just gave him today, so we can mail his to them.  Because dudes don't care about wedding invitations, right?  Awesome.  So now I have to go buy a whole new thing of envelopes and we have an invited guest without an invitations.

tlv204

Thanks guys  I already feel a little better. And I know I still need to eat better and work out more than I do now, but honestly I just don't always have time. I just never had to try this hard before, and I'm being a big baby. I don't even want to know what it will be like when I'm 50.

Psy- that's a cute hat

Missy- yeah we had him put to sleep about a year and a half ago, and he was 16 years old, and I'm really glad we stayed in the room when he was put to sleep, but that post just made me really sad about it. I'm sorry about maggie \

gg- you're not helping except for the picture. That's cute.

And nebb and everyone else thanks for the advice, it does help.

bpage3

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/parenting/nipple-jewelry-5-products-moms-don-t-need-245063/

well if magic virginity juice and hello kitty douche can't cheer you up, then hard liquor it is.

crfische

OOOOHHHH Dear....that sucks!

Nebb

Thanks fische - ive lost 34lbs and am hanging around a size 13 (ie all of my size 14's dont fit and I dont fit into 12 yet). I am the same # weight as I was at the wedding, but all of my clothes from that time are way too big now, so im pretty sure a bulk of my weight is just muscle from lifting. I have 27lbs or so to get to the # weight I was when I moved in with my husband and my trouble with weight really exploded.

Tlv - its possible your metabolism has just changed. I used to eat pasta every night and a lot of crap and stayed relatively thin, and then it started to pack on and now its VERY hard for me not to gain. I seem to gain weight very easily, and I can only lose it with a mix of diet and exercise - i dont seem to be one of those people who can lose with diet alone. When I lost weight for my wedding, I lost around 20lbs in 4 months and it came off pretty easily, but even between then and now the way my body loses weight has changed. I think its just a factor of getting older.

thesuninherhead

Target change rooms are the devil. THE DEVIL, I tell you.

 

Sorry you're feeling down Tlv. Go check yourself out in your regular mirror without horror lighting that highlights every imperfection and you'll feel much better, trust me. 

tlv204

Congrats Nebb! I think it's safe to say I'm really really jealous I don't want to get older.

bpage- that's special   Hard liquor might have to make an appearance. Only 8 more school days until spring break, so at least I'll be able to relax for a while and spend a lot of money on a new patio. Spending money always makes me happy.

Nebb

It doesnt seem like it, but any changes in eating and exercise, though they arent getting you the results as quickly as you want, are good for you. Youre keeping your body healthy, and thats the best you can ever hope for. Just remember that! (corny pep talk over)

tlv204

Sun- I was thinking about that, but all of the clothes I bought are still sitting in the corner of the dining room because I kind of want to go right now and return everything without giving it a second chance.  Maybe I'll break out the hard alcohol and THEN give myself a home fashion show.

Nebb- I know, I have to remind myself of that. And I did quit smoking last March, so I know overall I'm doing good things, but damnit I'm vain

Brie2010

Yeah, ditto the Target sizes.  I actually don't fit into any sizes of pants at Target because their cuts are so weird.

ggmae

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_im-having-fat-day-cheer-up-please-very-whiny?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c8ab9251-d354-40bc-a1a6-38841b6e51bcPost:a22b351b-dbb8-4416-a836-a0bc16068817">Re: I'm having a fat day. Cheer me up please. (Very whiny)</a>:
[QUOTE]Target change rooms are the devil. THE DEVIL, I tell you.   Sorry you're feeling down Tlv. Go check yourself out in your regular mirror without <strong>horror lighting that highlights every imperfection </strong>and you'll feel much better, trust me. 
Posted by thesuninherhead[/QUOTE]

I hate that most fitting rooms do this!

thesuninherhead

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[QUOTE]Sun- I was thinking about that, but all of the clothes I bought are still sitting in the corner of the dining room because I kind of want to go right now and return everything without giving it a second chance.  Maybe I'll break out the hard alcohol and THEN give myself a home fashion show. Nebb- I know, I have to remind myself of that. And I did quit smoking last March, so I know overall I'm doing good things, but damnit I'm vain :)
Posted by tlv204[/QUOTE]
<p> </p><p>Yeah, I promise that it's just that hideous lighting in Target that does it. I am thin, yet go into those things and come out mortified because there's about 239502835 dimples on my ass that I didn't realise were there until I'd had the pleasure of their mirror filled, bright room to show me. </p><p> </p><p>And though our target stocks different clothes to yours, I must say that the sizing can be a little odd. Usually they're too big comparitive to other stores here, but sometimes I'll go to try something like work pants in in my regular size (8 Australian) and they're far too snug- yet other styles of pants they stock in the same size are too big... so who knows, but try not to worry too much about the number. </p>

aMrsin09

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm having a fat day. Cheer me up please. (Very whiny) :    something like work pants in in my regular size (8 Australian)
Posted by thesuninherhead[/QUOTE]


That's just not right.  You're only about size 0 US, yes?

ootmother2

Stop looking at a scale to tell you how you look!

I'm 5'8' and 124 lbs and I have FLAB!

I haven't been able to go to physical therapy for almost 2 months (small problem being worked out) and half my clothes are too tight around the waist.

I DREAD shopping for new bathing suits!

thesuninherhead

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm having a fat day. Cheer me up please. (Very whiny) : That's just not right.  You're only about size 0 US, yes?
<p>Posted by aMrsin09[/QUOTE]</p><p> </p><p>Before you edited this and all it said was 'that's not right', I was like, what's not right?! haha. </p><p> </p><p>From my limited experience in the states, I found that I was mostly a 0 although 1's also fit, and my wedding dress (aka the one I didn't get so no clue if it actually would have fit) was ordered as a 2 because of my measurements. Here, I'm a 6-8. Truth be told, I'm a 6 on the top and an 8 on the bottom more accurately, probably, haha- but it varies on clothing. 8 is their lowest size in most clothes in target save some teenage stuff, and most of the time I can wear that even though they're usually a little too big- but then with their workpants, the 8's are sometimes far too snug and barely fit. Moral of the story: clothing sizes vary between styles/makers far too much to actually get upset about the number on the item if it looks good! </p>

lisarose7

TLV: I have a funny fat story for you.  I gradually put on about 55 lbs over the last 10 years, but didn't realize it because I decided weight was just a number and if I was happy with the way I looked I didn't need to know how much I weighed.  Well one day I got in my car and turned around to put my purse in the backseat when I heard two loud snaps from the front of my car.  I thought there was something wrong with my engine until I saw a button lying on the dash.  Turns out I'd gotten so big that the buttons exploded off my winter coat hard enough to leave marks on the inside of the windshield.

Don't think that your body "peaks" in your mid-20s.  I'm 32 now and look better than I ever looked in my 20s.  Yes, I got pretty big, but I was able to lose most of the weight without too much trouble.  When I started working out, I got a little thicker, too, because I was building muscle faster than I was burning fat....but after a couple of weeks I started looking more toned and started fitting into smaller clothes.  Keep up the good work, and don't let those occasional "fat days" get you down.