So this may be a little long and I apologize...
About six years (or more!) ago, I was having issues with my mom. She and my dad were getting divorced and she went pretty hysterical (accused me of doing drugs etc) so I started acting up and would stay away from her. I'd go to my Uncle (mom's adoptive brother) and Aunt's (his wife) house. They listened to my problems, and actually got me into partying (no details, but drugs and alcohol underage invloved). At some point, they called my mom and told her what I had been doing (and left out the part about how they "helped" me) and printed out emails I had sent to them talking about how I hated my home life, etc.
Of course this caused a huge thing between my mom and I. Thankfully we have reconciled and I realized that they weren't helping me at all. They were leading me down a horrible path.
Aunt is still buying prescription pills from a dealer and boozing it up every weekend.
I won't go into details (because its over a decade worth of drama), but Uncle and Aunt have never treated, me, my brother, my parents, or my grandparents right. I mean really really badly. So I get my mom's preferred guest list emailed to me the othe rday and she includes Aunt, Uncle, and Uncle's son (their 2 daughters won't be invited because of age anyway). I would love for their 14 year old son to come, I wouldn't mind Uncle coming, but everytime I think of Aunt coming I want to punch the wall. She's backstabbing and a horrible friend/person/family member. And I'm worried that she'll get drunk and do something crazy (she's done it at another family member's wedding before).
So I obviously can't invite son and Uncle and not Aunt. But I don't want to invite Aunt which would mean not inviting son and Uncle. If I don't invite them I'll get flak from my family probably until everyone who rememebers it is dead.
So should I not invite them and deal with the continued drama or invite them and suffer through her at FI's and I's special day?
I've asked FI what he thinks and he prefers not to invite either of them, but says its my desicion. Ugh... I just don't know what to do! Did anyone have this issue?